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Zero professional self confidence

  • 11-04-2016 5:56pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all, I will try sum this up as best I can without rambling.

    I am 2 years out of college and I got a job with a very large firm who are very well known but I put it down to being in the right place at the right time because I dont think my quality of work (portfolio) was very good. I was in the job for 2 years and decided to leave to gain a different work experience. I handed in my portfolio to a company that I wanted to work for, got an interview and got the job. I was later told they were very impressed with my work and was guaranteed the job right after my interview.

    Any normal person would be brimming with confidence after this but not me. I feel so out of my depth in the new place that I worry going to work everyday that I wont live up to their expectations or that I will make a big mistake, I've already made a few smaller ones that I shouldnt really be making. People tell me my work is good but I cant believe them and I dont know why. I feel uncomfortable when someone gives me a compliment on things I've done because I dont feel I deserve them.

    I'm sure there are bigger issues here on a personal level but if anyone has felt this way or has any advice on what I can do to change this I'd be very grateful.


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  • #2
    pookie82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,217 ✭✭✭pookie82


    Have you heard of imposter syndrome? Google it and have a read ... It sounds like it's what you're suffering from.


  • #3
    farmchoice
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,026 ✭✭✭farmchoice


    the way you feel is what drives you to do better all the time, even when you are doing fine. its the fear of not being good enough that will make you one of the best.
    you were taken on because what you did before was so good and now you are learning the ropes somewhere new and they are telling you you are doing well.

    people who are very very successful in their given field, be it sports people or musicians or any job often feel as you do, that they have somehow been incredibly lucky to get where they are but are now going to be found out. this terror of being exposed as a cod propels them to work harder and harder and do better and better.

    this makes a great story when writing their autobiography but it sounds pretty hellish to be living through, perhaps you need to speak to a counselor who can help you go a bit easier on yourself.


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