The sunday night fear

jk23

Hi, Like many on here I am facing into work tomorrow and dreading it! However I have the fear like most of the 80s/90s kids had on hearing the end theme music of Glenroe. Unfortunately most of my angst is coming from working beside a co worker who I had a row with a few months ago and due to the nature of the job we both have to work close to each other. I was hoping for some advice on what to do while I look for other employment as I am dreading work and I know I am not happy in work which is becoming noticeable. thanks and hope you guys can give some good advice...

LostTazMan

OK, perhaps you could put your row with your co-worker behind you. Accept that you will not be friends, but let what happened in the past and move on. Regardless of the rights and wrongs of what happened, letting it play on your mind to such an extent is not good for you. Easier said than done I know, but worth trying.

JupiterKid

Hi jk23 - I used to get a terrible dose of the Sunday blues when I was working in a job which I had enjoyed but later endured thanks to workplace bullying by a new boss. I would really dread the prospect of Monday morning.

I would drink heavily to cope - not a good solution at all. I would strongly suggest that you don't go down that road.

You should consider changing jobs so that you can find something you will enjoy and not fear. In the meantime, you might try doing something like outdoor physical exercise that will burn off some of your nervous energy. And perhaps go out and do something enjoyable on Sunday afternoon evening to take your mind off Monday instead of sitting at home brooding and worrying.

Good luck!

JimmyCrackCorn

LostTazMan wrote: »

OK, perhaps you could put your row with your co-worker behind you. Accept that you will not be friends, but let what happened in the past and move on. Regardless of the rights and wrongs of what happened, letting it play on your mind to such an extent is not good for you. Easier said than done I know, but worth trying.

That's one of the harder lessons of the corporate world.
Your not paid for for everyone to like you, your paid to get the Job done and done well.

The corporate world is full of difficult people and you need to ignore the daftness that goes on detach your emotion from it or it'll eat at you. Wait till you hit Management, that's when it gets harder.

I'm not saying go around being an arse but you have to accept people wont like you every now and then and you'll meet a few you wont like either. Your still there to get an outcome for the company.


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Remember Life outside of work is why you work.

Rubberchikken

if these sunday blues are due to not enjoying your job then maybe it's time to start looking around for something else.
if it's just because of a row with a colleague, then accepting that it happened and is now done and dusted and time to move on, might be of help.

things like this happen in workplaces. not everyone gets on, but how you could handle a situation like that in future might be a good thing to address.
take care

JeffKenna

Do you communicate with your colleague at some level? If there is respect shown from your colleague towards you (aka saying good morning etc) then I would say it's all part of the corporate culture and you need to develop a tougher skin.

If it is a situation when your colleague ignores you or there behaviour is unprofessional then it is an issue that needs to be resolved. Call a meeting to discuss it with her or bring HR into it.

As people have said you're not in work to make friends. You can't force people to like you. However you can force people to act professionally towards you and you deserve that. Stand back from the situation and ask yourself why you are feeling like this on a Sunday night. Is it because your colleague is acting unprofessionally towards you, or it is because you're too sensitive?

Sun in Capri

Maybe the colleague you had the row with has the same problem. Would it be any use to try and clear the air a bit, saying that as you both have to work together you would like for you both to just get on with it and be professional and put the row to one side - doesn't mean anybody won or lost in the row. In working life we are going to have rows with colleagues and if at all possible it is better to try and clear the air is some way.

jk23

thanks a million to everyone who replied. I appreciate each response and am thinking what I can get out of each of your replies.

Ursus Horribilis

Is this person bullying you?

Is it just this argument that is making you dislike the job? Are there other factors? Do you have many commitments - family, children, mortgage, etc? If you're starting to dread the job so much that it gives you the "fear" every Sunday, then it might be a sign that you need a change?

Honestly, as others have said, you can't expect everyone to actually like you in your working life.