URGENT! NEED ADVICE!

jamie124

Hello There,
So I'm going to start off by saying I met this amazing guy through Instagram (I know) anyways basically he is 15 and I am 18 and he wants to be in a relationship with me.
We live quite far (3 hours) from each other.
I think he is absolutely amazing and he is so nice and kind and he is definitely who he says he is and I also added him on snapchat.
I think I'm in love with him and he is definitely in love with me.
But as I said - I'm 18 and he's 15 (3 years between us) - would that matter? Legally and stuff???
Also he wants to meet me at a certain time (near where I live) in the summer....
I have mixed feelings about it all and we know each other approximately 1 day! (Sounds crazy I know) but he seems really down to earth and so nice gosh I don't know anymore need some advice!

Thanks in advance xx

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The age of consent is 17 so yes, that part would definitely mattter.

wehuntmonsters

jamie124 wrote: »

Hello There,
So I'm going to start off by saying I met this amazing guy through Instagram (I know) anyways basically he is 15 and I am 18 and he wants to be in a relationship with me.
We live quite far (3 hours) from each other.
I think he is absolutely amazing and he is so nice and kind and he is definitely who he says he is and I also added him on snapchat.
I think I'm in love with him and he is definitely in love with me.
But as I said - I'm 18 and he's 15 (3 years between us) - would that matter? Legally and stuff???
Also he wants to meet me at a certain time (near where I live) in the summer....
I have mixed feelings about it all and we know each other approximately 1 day! (Sounds crazy I know) but he seems really down to earth and so nice gosh I don't know anymore need some advice!

Thanks in advance xx

I'd slow down and think this through first if I were you. I'm happy you've found someone you like but you don't know him or if he is even real, unless you've chatted to him via Skype. The age of consent is a very big issue if he is who he says he is. The reason it's a big issue is because if his parents find out and don't like it because they think he is too young or because he is gay, they could get you charged with statutory rape based solely on the age's of both you and their son.

jamie124

wehuntmonsters wrote: »

I'd slow down and think this through first if I were you. I'm happy you've found someone you like but you don't know him or if he is even real, unless you've chatted to him via Skype. The age of consent is a very big issue if he is who he says he is. The reason it's a big issue is because if his parents find out and don't like it because they think he is too young or because he is gay, they could get you charged with statutory rape based solely on the age's of both you and their son.

I've spoken to him on the phone and he has a YouTube channel which is pretty popular so it's definitely him... I'm not saying we are going to be going completely sexual or anything! I will have to be careful... Plus he says he's only in my area once a year.... Which is hard but he's just an amazing guy I've never met anyone like him... He's told me his mother is finding it hard to accept him and his grandparents don't know yet (he lives with them)

And I'm going to be honest here too - I don't judge people but he said his mum was raped and that is how she had him... And his dad died (60 years of age) and now his mother has a boyfriend who is way older than her.... I've also seen pictures of his family and to be honest they look slightly dodgy but I don't know I could be wrong... He is just lovely himself .... I'm really caught here...

L.Jenkins

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Ten of Swords

jamie124 wrote: »

I think I'm in love with him and he is definitely in love with me.

jamie124 wrote: »

we know each other approximately 1 day

Issues of age and consent are not to be taken lightly, the other posters have spoken about this and the mod has given you a good resource. Consider what's best for this guy. From your posts it sounds like he may be slightly vulnerable if his family are having difficulty accepting his sexuality.

These quotes are what really stood out for me. I'm sure some people here can relate to having an intense reaction to meeting someone you connect with (even online) for the first time but you really need to step back and get some clarity and perspective before deciding what to do.

Do you think it's a good idea?

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Apart from anything else, what you are considering is illegal and opens you up to being charged with statutary rape.

You asked us if it was a good idea....its not.

newacc2015

I dont mean to be a Debbie downer. But IMO you cant be in love with someone within a day of knowing them, especially online. Knowing someone online and wanting to be in a relationship within one day is far too fast. An online persona of someone is totally different to them in person. You could develop unrealistic expectations of this guy, as you have wont meet him in person for several months. There are tens of thousands of stories online about people finding amazing guys online, only to meet them in person to find out they nothing like their online persona.

My advice is dont have commit to this cyber relationship. A year ago I spoke to a guy (on grindr). He couldnt commit for meeting up before he went back home for college. He was constantly texting me all summer and made no effort to meet up with me. When I finally met up with him, he was nothing like what I expected. He was so rude and immature. I think we went on 1/2 dates, as I knew it was not going to work. I told him this and he was really disappointed, as he really liked me

My two cents would be text this guy now and again if he was over 17. But he isnt, so I wouldnt get involved with someone who isnt of legal age. If I were you, I would not commit time and effort into a cyber relationship that may not work in person. Do you really want to commit to someone who you will see a handful of times during the year at most? IMO that isnt a healthy relationship in the long run

L.Jenkins

Closing This Thread:

This could be a contentious issues and could be misconstrued by someone on the outside. OP, I would take the advice of other Posters in this Thread. No matter how you feel, the legal age of consent is 17. I don't condone breaking the law in this regard, no matter the reason.

Annasopra

River White Battery wrote: »

Apart from anything else, what you are considering is illegal and opens you up to being charged with statutary rape.

You asked us if it was a good idea....its not.

OP you need to take this on board

We cannot allow you to discuss commiting a potential crime which could be considered statutory rape here.


OP you also need to think long and hard if you really want to be placed on the sex offenders register

http://www.citizensinformation.ie/en/justice/criminal_law/criminal_trial/sex_offenders_register.html