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Work life balance

  • 01-04-2016 10:09pm
    #1
    LostTazMan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 58 ✭✭


    Hi, I would appreciate others opinions on this.

    My wife and I have had a few very rough weeks. My mother in law passed away, and our two year old daughter has been sick. I have taken time off work at little or no notice to be there. This is as it should be, family has to come first, and my managers accept this.

    Of my own choice I decided that I will spend 20-30 minutes tomorrow on a site to resolve a work issue. When I told my wife she was adamant that I should not do this. "Why should you spend family time at work?"

    She doesn't accept that I have to do a bit extra to make up for the shortfall over the last while. I feel that if I don't I will get much less flexibility the next time I need it.

    She will be in the hospital with our younger daughter, while I will have our older daughter with me. I will be spending the rest of the day in the hospital or minding our older daughter.

    Am I being unreasonable?

    LTM


Comments

  • #2
    Eric Cartman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,280 ✭✭✭✭Eric Cartman


    your being perfectly reasonable. I am really sick of partners not understanding that there are some work commitments you just can't drop. If it was spending 2 days out of the country on a project id say she has a point. You should go resolve the issue and she should understand OP.


  • #3
    dixiefly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,951 ✭✭✭dixiefly


    Based on what you describe I think you are not being unreasonable and there is nothing for which you are absolutely needed. Is your older daughter able to come with you to your work ok and you still mind her at the same time?

    I remember a few years ago i had to take a number of calls during our holidays and we were only away for a week. My wife was saying that i wasnt taking a break for my own good but I remember explaining that I was saving myself an awful lot of hassle from when I when i would be back in the office so I felt it was in my own interest to sort the issue.

    So, yes, a certain level of balance and compromise is a good thing.


  • #4
    LostTazMan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 58 ✭✭LostTazMan


    Yes, my older daughter can be with me. She is 12, and will happily sit next to me with Netflix on my phone while I work. I have to go to a shop which will be open to the public, and the owner has no problem with her being there.

    A big part of my wife's issues arise from the fact that I worked myself into the ground a few years ago and am only recovering now. My depression caused her a huge amount of stress and pain, and she is afraid that any extra work is the beginning of me going down the same path again. She cannot accept that on some occasions it is far more stressful to me to let a small problem unresolved knowing that it will take much more time and effort to sort out the mess the next day. I agree with her that I can't go down that way again, but we have to make some compromises as I am very frustrated with the current situation.


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