Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

Looking to separate

  • 22-03-2016 10:01am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi
    I'm looking for some general pointers to help get things clear in my mind. I know I'll need to get proper legal advice in time.

    Background
    Married with 3 young kids (1 school 2 full time childcare).
    After years of denying it I have admitted to myself that I'm gay. My wife is a great person but I can't continue as I have been.

    In terms of assets there is the family home (positive equity) and we both have properties from before we met - mine in negative equity hers probably breakeven. These are rented out.

    I earn more than my wife. In terms of the kids I would look for a 50/50 co parenting arrangement which I think she would be open to.

    Is it a question of splitting assets 50/50 (including the family home) and then we both contribute to the costs of the kids with me paying more? Should I get legal advice before speaking to my wife? As I said she's a great person so I'm not looking to screw her.

    I hope this makes sense. Thanks in advance for any advice.


Comments

  • #2
    Stheno
    Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 51,690 Mod ✭✭✭✭Stheno


    It's not quite that black and white tbh.

    You first need to sit down with your wife and discuss this with her. When I did do with my I ex I took them out to dinner and had a quiet conversation with them.

    Mediation is something to look into also. A good solicitor is a great help, but try to make sure you find one who is not what I call militant, I found my first solicitor to be vicious in relation to my ex, and moved.

    If you believe that it's possible to have an amiable split, you are blessed. Be prepared however for challenges.

    And firstly talk to your wife, this may be a great shock to her.


Advertisement