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bart227 · 21-03-2016 12:49pm #1

I have beingd dating my girlfriend for two months now and things are great except for one thing, one of her friends is a man whos she says is a slut but is like a sister to her,my girlfriend said nothing ever happened between them but they take each other to weddings plus they are going traveling to Australia in June and will be together for four months before i get out there and it's beginning to drive me mad. I haven't met this friend in person yet because he lives about an hour away they are friends from college it's just a headwreck of a situation, really i'm just wondering has anyone been in a similar situation and what the outcome was!!

Xterminator · 21-03-2016 1:18pm

Hi OP.

If you dont mind me saying you sound very young and inexperienced. After all you dont have a relationship with this male friend, and i dont see why you would fret about this person; and their motivations.

I would suggest you decide if you trust your girlfriend.she is the one who is in a relationship with you. Has she done things to make you worry about her ability to be faithful?

if you trust your GF then stop obsessing and wish her well. If you dont - then perhaps a long distance relationship might not be a good idea.

X

Tilly · 21-03-2016 1:20pm

Wait, you're only with her 2 months and planning on going to OZ with her? This is what stood out from your post. That's a lot of money and planning for just 2 months into a relationship. You may want to cool it down a bit?

KikiDee · 21-03-2016 1:36pm

Hey OP,

I'm with Tilly, although perhaps you had both arranged to go separately before getting together?

Anyway, only you can decide of you trust your GF. If she says nothing happened, then you have to go with that for the moment. If it's seriously wrecking your head, maybe you need to consider if meeting up with them both in Oz is going to be the best move for you to make?

LegacyUser · 21-03-2016 2:05pm

Well i was planning on going to Australia to visit friends anyway just said i would stay there a bit longer and travel with them might aswel see the place when i'm there. I'm not inexperienced in relationships just not used to my girlfriend having such a good male friend in my opinion men always want more!!

bart227 · 21-03-2016 2:12pm

I was going to Australia anyway to see friends just said i would travel with her and see the country when i'm there. I'm not inexperienced in relationships just not used to my girlfriend having such a close male friend i guess

bart227 · 21-03-2016 2:36pm

My girlfriend and i aren't in a long distance we live close enough to each other, it's her and the friend that live away from each other.

KikiDee · 21-03-2016 2:37pm

bart227 wrote: »

I was going to Australia anyway to see friends just said i would travel with her and see the country when i'm there. I'm not inexperienced in relationships just not used to my girlfriend having such a close male friend i guess

Cheers for the context

I get where you're coming from the with your OH being close with a guy. I've never experienced an OH being so close to someone of the opposite sex but I'd like to think that I'd trust them if they tell me nothing is or has gone one. And for now OP, that's really all you can you do. She's never given you any reason to think otherwise I'm assuming so go with that, enjoy your time together and happy travelling

bart227 · 21-03-2016 2:50pm

To be fair i do trust her i just don't know him so i can't trust him.

KikiDee · 21-03-2016 2:56pm

bart227 wrote: »

To be fair i do trust her i just don't know him so i can't trust him.

You don't need to trust him. It's her you're in the relationship with.

bart227 · 21-03-2016 3:05pm

I know i only need to trust her but what if she only said nothing happened in the past just so i wouldn't worry about anything happening in the future!!

KikiDee · 21-03-2016 3:12pm

That's not trusting her pet. That's questioning her. If she said nothing happened, and you trust her, then let it go. You're wrecking your own head by thinking this way.

bart227 · 21-03-2016 3:17pm

KikiDee wrote: »

That's not trusting her pet. That's questioning her. If she said nothing happened, and you trust her, then let it go. You're wrecking your own head by thinking this way.

I don't mean to question her but your right about wrecking my own head i think that might be the biggest problem really

KikiDee · 21-03-2016 3:21pm

OK....so now you need to decide how you're going to stop that. This girl has given you no reason to doubt what she's telling you. Granted, her friend might be a bit of a d**k but that isn't your problem o worry about or fix. Put this to the back of your mind, go with the flow on it. You're 2 months into a new relationship...enjoy it!

bart227 · 21-03-2016 4:15pm

KikiDee wrote: »

OK....so now you need to decide how you're going to stop that. This girl has given you no reason to doubt what she's telling you. Granted, her friend might be a bit of a d**k but that isn't your problem o worry about or fix. Put this to the back of your mind, go with the flow on it. You're 2 months into a new relationship...enjoy it!

Ya your right thanks for the input it's been helpful😊

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