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So lost, alone and depressed

  • 20-03-2016 11:50am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    My relationship ended two months ago. It was very messy. I still love him and I want us to fix things and be together.
    He won't communicate with me about it.
    We have very little contact.

    I miss him dreadfully. I feel like my life is over. I've had other break ups but nothing compares to the grief I am feeling. I am so depressed. I wake up crying because I miss waking up beside him. We spent all our free time together and now I wake up on a day off and I can't make myself go and do something on my own. I don't feel capable. My sadness is crippling.

    I am going to a counsellor but I am wondering if anyone here has been through similar and how you pulled yourself out of it. My biggest issue is that a life without someone to share it with is pointless to me. Until I can change that view I will never be happy on my own.
    I just miss him so much. It feels like I have lost the most important thing in my life.
    I have major final exams in 6 weeks and I need to focus, but I feel so lost that I can't make myself study let alone concentrate.

    Any advice appreciated.


Comments

  • #2
    zoobizoo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,751 ✭✭✭zoobizoo


    What things do you enjoy doing on your own? Having a coffee in the morning in your favourite cafe... a jog in the evening at sunset? Whatever the small things you get pleasure from, do them.

    If you are coming up to your finals, I'm presuming that you're in your early 20s so your life is just beginning.

    I would advise you to try to be more independent - that could be by joining clubs, having a passion or just learning to enjoy being on your own. I learned at an early age to enjoy my own company (I didn't have a whole heap of friends) but that meant that I could go enjoy a coffee or a beer or a walk on my own. Then when I am seeing someone, I can do things with them, or do things on my own.

    The Road Less Travelled is a good read - particularly the Relationship section.


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