Dating in "the old days"

JuliusCaesar

I was reading over yonder about the new phenomenon of 'ghosting'. Basically, you're dating somebody and then suddenly they just vanish - don't respond to calls or texts, delete you from social media etc. This is NEW??

It happened me well before mobile phones or portable (or even desktop) computers.

Anyway, we were Irish, we weren't dating, we just 'went out' with each other. It was the early 80s and we were in our early 20s-ish. I liked him a lot though. :-( Then he never rang me again.

So, Oul People, any stories of how we used to er get to know each other?

I was a Dub so don't have any dancehall stories. Mostly it was friends-of-friends, met in pubs and parties. We looked down on discos, but did go to Leeson St for late-night-drinking occasionally, but the places were full of married men. And nobody ever used the word "date"!

Jellybaby1

Sorry, I have no stories to tell as my life was a pretty boring one compared to other teens in the 60's and 70's. I only went to one disco in my life and hated it, never went again. Anyway the kettle's on so I'll settle down to see what turns up here. I bet there are some good stories coming from the O's and O's. Come on now, let's be 'aving you!

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

I'm afraid the 80s are recent history to me. I thought this was for oulwans, not middle aged whippersnappers.

I stepped out with a lovely young girl. Nothing unusual. Pictures, walks etc. Married her after two years and 45 years later here we are. No stories. Just an ordinary life.

As for ghosting. That's just what we would have called being stood up.

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Iris Angry Shark wrote: »

I'm afraid the 80s are recent history to me. I thought this was for oulwans, not middle aged whippersnappers.

I stepped out with a lovely young girl. Nothing unusual. Pictures, walks etc. Married her after two years and 45 years later here we are. No stories. Just an ordinary life.

As for ghosting. That's just what we would have called being stood up.

There's a movie somewhere in that..

My M.O was to walk over to a bird in a nightclub/thisco and drop the head towards the dance floor, If she walked to the dance floor happy days, if not no harm done as you hadn't actually asked her to dance.

My dating was done mostly around City centre in the 80s.

Rubecula

No stories to tell, when I was a teen I asked a girl out and we would meet at a set place if she said yes. As I got older I joined the RAF so we usually met local girls to wherever I was stationed, and they tended to 'make themselves available'

So sadly I have no stories.

Esel

Cloning a hard disk?

Terminating someone?

Shadowing / stalking / haunting someone?

Being invisible until the right moment?

Disappearing (out of the blue)? √

Only heard that last one recently... can't see it working in court though.

dohouch

"The lad would ask you out to dance, then buy you a mineral............ and then spend the rest of the night trying to squeeze it out of you."

As told by an old wan

Jellybaby1

I wonder if any of them young 'uns would know what a 'mineral' was! Haven't heard that in years.

Stheno

TK Red Lemonade!

CAn you imagine the young of today having to cope without mobiles?

That said without mobiles, my current OH would have been 2.5 hours late for our second "date" and I'd have thought I'd been "stood up!"

Rubecula

When I was a young lad a mobile was something hung over a baby's cot

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Rubecula wrote: »

When I was a young lad a mobile was something hung over a baby's cot

So you're a year younger then John the Baptist..
:eek:

Jellybaby1

not yet wrote: »

So you're a year younger then John the Baptist..
:eek:

We ALL are, here! :rolleyes:

Rubecula

Jellybaby1 wrote: »

We ALL are, here! :rolleyes:

You saved my blushes young lady
gazes with hero worship at Jellybaby

Jellybaby1

Rubecula wrote: »

You saved my blushes young lady
gazes with hero worship at Jellybaby

looksee

How can I keep order in here when the other mod is flirting with the inmates

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looksee wrote: »

How can I keep order in here when the other mod is flirting with the inmates

Wow there a minute, nobody told me I was doing hard labour, I want to apply for parole asap..

looksee

not yet wrote: »

Wow there a minute, nobody told me I was doing hard labour, I want to apply for parole asap..

Hm, you will have to ask matron about that!



(that's the trouble with in-jokes, they can be misunderstood :pac: From the start there has been a kind of 'old people's home' meme going on, with references to matron and bingo etc. Which is ok for us to do since we are oul wans (and fellas) . )

Sorry JC, we have gone way off topic, and its mostly my fault...

looksee

Dating...there didn't seem to be a lot of what would be considered dating I think, for me anyway. I had a gang of mates that I hung out with, I had friends who were fellas and fellas who were friends, which occasionally led to a bit of snogging (horrible expression!). Then I got friendly with this fella and his bunch of friends (where I was women were in very short supply ) and we kinda separated off and became an item, then we got married. That 'then' is an abbreviation of quite a complicated and unlikely story that I will not go into here!

Jellybaby1

looksee wrote: »

Dating...there didn't seem to be a lot of what would be considered dating I think, for me anyway. I had a gang of mates that I hung out with, I had friends who were fellas and fellas who were friends, which occasionally led to a bit of snogging (horrible expression!). Then I got friendly with this fella and his bunch of friends (where I was women were in very short supply ) and we kinda separated off and became an item, then we got married. That 'then' is an abbreviation of quite a complicated and unlikely story that I will not go into here!

Now you're just teasing us!

Stheno

looksee wrote: »

How can I keep order in here when the other mod is flirting with the inmates

Inmates? you need to mod a proper asylum

Speedwell

I had to post for a laugh... At 50 this year I am possibly the oldest person who has had all her dates and boyfriends be from online chats since 1983. That is not a misprint. My first boyfriend was the kid who sat next to me in homeroom in high school. My second boyfriend (and ex-husband) was a fellow nerd at college who I met over the on-campus computer lab chat link (that only connected the university computer labs). He was a nerd because he had a modem and could dial in from home. 300 baud I tell the kids I was probably one of the very first people to marry someone they met online. That's why I'm in Ireland, by the way; I also met my current husband online and cross-pond relations ensued. We got married while I was on a business trip to Scotland. We'll be married four years this September.

Jellybaby1

not yet wrote: »

Wow there a minute, nobody told me I was doing hard labour, I want to apply for parole asap..

Everyone enters..........but no-one leaves. Heh. Heh. Heh.

Speedwell wrote: »

... At 50 this year I am possibly the oldest person who has had all her dates and boyfriends be from online chats since 1983.......We'll be married four years this September.

I stand in amazement, Speedwell. There must be a book there somewhere, or a fillum. Maybe you should get cracking on that!

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Jellybaby1 wrote: »

Everyone enters..........but no-one leaves. Heh. Heh. Heh.

Kinda like hotel California..

My first serious girlfriend lived around the corner, I'd been mad about her for years then seen her in the garden out the back of the flats in a yellow summer dress, 34 years later I remember it like it was 34 years year's ago.

And yes I married her.........










Divorced 10 years ago, but still friendly.

Jellybaby1

not yet wrote: »

Kinda like hotel California..

My first serious girlfriend lived around the corner, I'd been mad about her for years then seen her in the garden out the back of the flats in a yellow summer dress, 34 years later I remember it like it was 34 years year's ago.

And yes I married her.........










Divorced 10 years ago, but still friendly.

I honestly said 'ahhhhhhhh' and then I saw the last line! Now I'm saying 'awwwwwwww'. Of course fairy stories were very different when they were written originally. Another buke or fillum in that.

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Jellybaby1 wrote: »

I honestly said 'ahhhhhhhh' and then I saw the last line! Now I'm saying 'awwwwwwww'. Of course fairy stories were very different when they were written originally. Another buke or fillum in that.

Much better place now, but sweet Jesus the first 12 months were incredibly hard from walking out and having my little girl cry her eyes out to feeling like I'd lost everything I'd worked my whole life for..

I honestly believe men Don't look for or get enough support going through divorce.

Rubecula

looksee wrote: »

Hm, you will have to ask matron about that!



(that's the trouble with in-jokes, they can be misunderstood :pac: From the start there has been a kind of 'old people's home' meme going on, with references to matron and bingo etc. Which is ok for us to do since we are oul wans (and fellas) . )

Sorry JC, we have gone way off topic, and its mostly my fault...

I think we got away with it. Matron was locked in the loo. I wonder who could have done that to the poor dear?

OldGoat

looksee wrote: »

...references to matron and bingo etc. ...

Ahem.

CUCINA

Met a lovely lady at a disco in the early 80's, arranged to meet her midweek outside a pub in Terenure. Stood there for ages, but no show.
Discovered afterwards, though, that there were two pubs at the time in Terenure with similar names, so I often wondered if she was standing outside the other pub, at the far end of the main street and she had a similar "no show" story to tell...

PMBC

Second date met girl outside local cinema and took her in. Same following night. We dated very occasionally after that, because she wasn't local, and wrote almost daily to one another. Lapsed for a while and then me her in UK. On reflection I was a bit clueless although supposedly very bright. Didn't amount to anything. Came into my head two or three days ago that I was maybe fourteen max at that time. Married my love, different girl, years later.
They were interesting times and as the man said they were the best of times and the worst of times.