Bored/Lonely

LegacyUser

I'm a guy in my late 30s , I'm pretty depressed here writing this . The only thing I have in my life is my Job , most of my friends are settled down and I find myself so bored at the weekends . Would aappreciate some advice

Ryan Mac Sweeney

Hi there
I have read your post. I am sorry to hear that. Are you single? If you are then why not join a dating agency such as elitesingles. Is there a mens shed in yiur area? If so then why not join as that way you will meet men from your local area and it is a great way to make new friends and meet new people. You also do things such as woodwork and all basic life skills and you really will enjoy it.

SarahMollie

Hi OP,

I've seen meetup.ie mentioned in a number of similar threads. Not tried it myself but a lot of ppl swear by it.

Its a less stressful option that online dating - its just groups of individuals who have a shared interest meeting up to try it together. I'd say the worst that could happen is that you might make a few friends

Do you live in an urban or rural area?

KikiDee

Hey OP,

Sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I'm pretty much the only single girl in my group of friends so I feel your pain to a certain extent. It can get quite lonely, especially at weekends when people are out and about with OH's. Please don't let it get you down though. Easier said than done I know but get yourself out and about. Even if it's just for a walk in the fresh air. Learn to love spending time by yourself. We're lucky in a way, not many people get that luxury

meetup is kinda cool. I've had a little look on it but have yet to join a group but they seem to be up and down the country. Great way to meet people with similar interests.

Jay Pentatonic

Any old hobbies you used to enjoy OP? Like a sport? Or instrument?
Might also be worth trying out something new?
Volunteering could also be a good option, any particular cause out there that strikes you?

Dughorm

Some suggestions:

Make new friends:

Join a running club?

Take up golf/new sport?

Watch a match at the pub on a regular basis?

Do a weekend away thing e.g. meetup group, for a new instrument, retreat, charity volunteering, choir, foreign language, art group etc...

Part time classroom course e.g. weekend classes

New Relationships:

Via one of the above

Internet Options

Friends of Settled Friends?

And

Be a bit more positive - I doubt you only have your job - you have your health, personality, family&friends! Loads to be thankful for!

Omackeral

Dughorm wrote: »

Some suggestions:

Make new friends:

Join a running club?

Take up golf/new sport?

Watch a match at the pub on a regular basis?

Do a weekend away thing e.g. meetup group, for a new instrument, retreat, charity volunteering, choir, foreign language, art group etc...

I'd suggest going to a match on a weekly basis if you like football. Check out your nearest League of Ireland club. It's a great way to meet new people, it's like a brotherhood. I go around the country with like minded loons following my team and it's so much better than parking your ass in a pub. Where are you based?

Dughorm

Omackeral wrote: »

I'd suggest going to a match on a weekly basis if you like football. Check out your nearest League of Ireland club. It's a great way to meet new people, it's like a brotherhood. I go around the country with like minded loons following my team and it's so much better than parking your ass in a pub. Where are you based?

That's a great idea in fairness!

Two other ideas that aren't sports based:
wine/book club and
walking club.