House Sharing

Melisandre121

I'm looking for somewhere to live at the moment and had a viewing with two girls. The house is beautiful but I didn't exactly click with the current tenants .. Not that we clashed or didn't get on, it was just quite formal.

I just wondered what you think of living with people you don't necessarily "click" with? My current housemates are great and I get on so well with them and I guess that's what I want. But should that matter when it comes to house sharing? Would love to hear your thoughts.

Ursus Horribilis

I think you'll get mixed viewpoints on this. There are some people who view a house share as a roof over their head and have no interest in getting to know their housemates. You'll even see people who go for weeks on end without even meeting their housemates. That's at the extreme end of the scale though.

I house shared even I was younger and was a lot happier when I lived in friendly house shares. It's not that we were living on each others pockets or anything but the house felt a lot more like home. What I found the one time I went for the more impersonal type was that I didn't feel at ease in the communal areas. I found myself hiding out in my room a lot so I'd not have to meet the others and have stilted conversations. If it was me I'd keep looking.

HalloweenJack

My take is that I never expect to be best mates with my housemates, just that we get along and we take care of all the flat stuff in a responsible way.

LegacyUser

Personally I've no interest in making friends with housemates. I like to be civil with them and say hello when we cross paths but otherwise I prefer to see as little of them as possible. My ideal housemates are ones out all the time or ones who live in their room. I've gone up to 3 months without being in the same room as a person I've lived with and without really making massive effort bar not going into the kichen till they leave etc.

Moral of the story is you don't need to click with people unless it's actually something you want to do yourself.

baby and crumble

Thing is op you've kind of already answered your own question, you seem to want a house share where you're friends with the people you live with. So I doubt this one will really suit you.

Personally, I've lived with my best friends, and I've lived with someone I hardly ever saw. I preferred the first, but I wouldn't really ever move in somewhere where I don't know what people are like to live with. I'm quite particular and it was bad enough having to bite my tongue with my best mate. Can't imagine having to have rent and Bill conversations with people I don't know.

Rubberchikken

op did you already know your current housemates before you all shared? if you did it isn't a fair comparison. if you did, grand job.

reason i ask is it's very hard to know if 'clicking' with a stranger is really accurate. some people do and great friendships develop, others do and in time they realise that they are just not friendship material.

i wouldn't put too much onto how well you get on with a stranger while viewing accommodation. ok if they come off as super strange iykwim, then avoid, but otherwise go into it with an open mind.

best of luck.