is life better if you are an emotional type person?

euser1984

for instance, somebody that is out in nature at springtime or out enjoying times with friends as opposed to somebody who does not really feel as much, but is more towards the autistic side if things even though still on the borderline and by borderline I mean more so into the defined "normal" space in the spectrum (thus outside the spectrum)....i'm in my 30's by the way.

I feel depressed enough of the time as it is - at least emotional type people sometimes stop crying but just looking out the window and seeing that the sun looks beautiful....

Keane2baMused

I'm quite confused by your post tbh OP.

Just to say there are no 'norms' with someone on the spectrum. Many thoroughly enjoy the company of others and many don't, just like 'neurotypical' people. Everyone feels emotions, just some people express them and some don't.

Is there something in particular that's happening to make you feel this way?

athtrasna

I'm an emotional person but sometimes that makes me isolate myself rather than surround myself with people so I'm very confused by your post OP?

kjl

I'm a guy and well I think I could do with being less emotional.

Case in point, I was watching an episode of Star Trek TNG last night. It was one where it explained that Diana Troys mother has a child who died before Diana could remember. I was crying like a little girl.

I find it difficult to watch some movies like 127 hours as it really gets me in the sobbing mood.

Ryan Mac Sweeney

Hi
I have read your post. I am sorry to hear your story. You are <SNIP> and my advice would be to maybe go and see your GP and explain your symptoms with him or her and <SNIP>. Also are you unhappy where you are at the moment. Maybe if there is a councillor go and talk to him or her if you are feeling down.
Best of Luck

dudara

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Ursus Horribilis

OP, are you getting any help at the moment for your issues? You seem very down. Too down in my uneducated opinion. If you've not been to your GP recently, I think you would benefit from paying a visit to him/her this week.

In answer to your question, I don't think there is a simple answer. If I'm honest, I wish I was a less emotional person. There are certain triggers that can reduce me to tears if I talk/think about them enough. So I take steps to avoid them and keep myself on an even keel. None of us knows what's going on under the surface with people anyway. You might know people who never seem to be bothered by anything but how can you be sure that this is actually the case. Some people are better actors than others.

Anyway, I'm starting to ramble. The point I probably should be trying to make here is that there's no point in wishing that you were a more emotional person. You are what you are and you can't change that. What you can do is try to accept this and be at peace with that. Work with what you have and do your best to be happy.

euser1984

sorry I mean from an objective pov (suppose it's very subjective) but girls you see going out shopping on saturdays, meeting friends for coffee, enjoying being out and about in public places such as concerts or events like that....

vs. someone who tends to find quietness in life a bit preferable and tend to avoid busy places - and with interests being in more technical type things such as computers and the like.....and maybe spending more time in front of the tv (watching documentaries and TED talks more so than soaps and the like) than others who would be out and about.

As emotional beings that we are - does someone that is more riding the wave of life as opposed to those who maybe think about life more in depth (and thus maybe are more inclined to live in the past) going to be enjoying life more? Those people come across to me as living in the moment and because of that it's almost like there in the moment like a child would be.....

bee06

OP, I'm thinking you mean introverted versus extroverted people? I don't think either way is "right" or "wrong" just different. I'm an introvert but that doesn't mean I don't go out and enjoy life at the same time. It does mean if I spend a busy weekend with people I do crave some alone time at the end alright but I certainly don't spend all my time alone thinking about life (just some of it). I hope that makes sense? I'm not entirely sure what you're asking about to be honest.

Dial Hard

euser1984 wrote:

sorry I mean from an objective pov (suppose it's very subjective) but girls you see going out shopping on saturdays, meeting friends for coffee, enjoying being out and about in public places such as concerts or events like that....vs. someone who tends to find quietness in life a bit preferable and tend to avoid busy places - and with interests being in more technical type things such as computers and the like.....and maybe spending more time in front of the tv (watching documentaries and TED talks more so than soaps and the like) than others who would be out and about.

You're basically describing extroversion versus introversion but conflating each with shallowness and "deep thinking". Which is folly. Not all people who like to be "out and about" choose soaps over TED talks, no more than people who stay in are more likely to read Tolstoy than Dan Brown.

There is no "right" way to be. People on either end of the extreme tend to have trouble "getting" the other but that's just the nature of life. As long as you can function in public then I wouldn't get too hung up on how outgoing or otherwise you are.

neemish

euser1984 wrote: »

sorry I mean from an objective pov (suppose it's very subjective) but girls you see going out shopping on saturdays, meeting friends for coffee, enjoying being out and about in public places such as concerts or events like that....

vs. someone who tends to find quietness in life a bit preferable and tend to avoid busy places - and with interests being in more technical type things such as computers and the like.....and maybe spending more time in front of the tv (watching documentaries and TED talks more so than soaps and the like) than others who would be out and about.

As emotional beings that we are - does someone that is more riding the wave of life as opposed to those who maybe think about life more in depth (and thus maybe are more inclined to live in the past) going to be enjoying life more? Those people come across to me as living in the moment and because of that it's almost like there in the moment like a child would be.....

OP, both of your posts struck a chord with me. I was in the city the other day. I'm not usually there but had to go for the afternoon. I was walking along thinking, wow this is a whole other world. Look at the people, and they're shopping, and the way they're dressed, and the diversity etc etc. And the thought struck me, Am I living at all? I'm at home or working most evenings. Come the weekend, I'm shattered and don't want to go anywhere.

But guess what? My life is as valid as someone living the "high life", going here there and everywhere. I try to do the things that I enjoy. I have much more limited energy to other people, and I have to adjust to that. And anyway, when you see a post on FB or people walking on the street, don't forget you're just getting a snapshot into their lives. You're not seeing the whole picture.

My advice to you? (as well as to myself) Try to enjoy your life as it is. If you like documentaries, enjoy them! Take please in the little things. Look at the sunset or the stars, and say wow. Try to have a few good friends you can spend with if you wish. A quiet life is not necessarily a bad one. Best of luck!