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Am I overthinking?

  • 12-03-2016 6:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I broke up with my ex a year ago. We'd been seeing each other for four years. It turned pretty toxic after two years and I think we both struggled to try and keep it going. It ended very badly and we don't speak anymore. I broke it off in the end but i still found it very hard. (Just giving some back story)
    The last year I've dated a lot of women. It never went much further than a date or two as I had no real interest in any of them. Recently I've met someone who I am interested in, she's smart, funny and beautiful and I really like spending time with her. However, I've this feeling in my stomach to stop seeing her and to walk away from it all. I don't know why as I really look forward to seeing her and being with her but there is something there that is preventing me from 'throwing myself into it' I find myself comparing her to my ex (I know its not fair) as she kinda reminds me of her a bit. I don't know, maybe that could be why. I am over my ex, in so much as I wound never ever get back with her.
    I'm not even sure what I'm looking for, just peoples thoughts I guess. Should I just forget about this girl? Let her go? Or should I wait and see what happens? I don't want to use her or waste her time....
    Thanks.


Comments

  • #2
    Jan Laco
    Closed Accounts Posts: 284 ✭✭Jan Laco


    Once bitten twice shy. It reads to me like you are holding yourself back because you are afraid that it won't work out.
    You're letting your experience with your ex dictate your future dating so you should just try to forget about her and stomp out the comparisons.
    You say you have dated alot of women. But this latest girl has something that stands out to you so why let her go?
    I think you should keep it casual and see if it develops naturally and you forget the past relationship.
    What would being single do to help you with your problem?


  • #3
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    Are you in the head space for a gf? If not, are you just dating for fun, sex etc?

    I ask because maybe she's the right girl (or one of many) for you but just at the wrong time. If you only want to casually date then tell her and see what she says.


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