New guy

LegacyUser

Hey all,

Just looking for a bit of advice here..I apologise in advance at how mundane this problem is!

.I am not great at the dating thing, but recently ventured online.I came across someone I know through old mutual friends (I don't see them anymore..moved country etc) anyway I had met him before and had thought he was cute and a nice guy.

Long story short: we hit it off. We have gone on 3 dates and everything in my head was going pretty good.
Now after the 1st date he asked to add me on fb...in my head I was thinking...hmm quick for me, but went with it, not really a big deal.

Anyway after the third date he went out on a night out with his buddies and the next day I noticed he had removed me as a friend on fb, but we were messaging away no prob everything still rosy all good...seemingly!

Anyway it was driving me nuts, so I decided to make a joke about us not being friends on fb...and he came back saying...sorry that he wasn't entirely sure if I was interested and that if I wasn't interested he didn't want it to seem like he had invaded my fb page....and also that he was drunk when he did it and it was a stupid decision.

I just don't know what to make of this....would this kind of behaviour cause alarm bells for anyone? I'm wondering are these the actions of a very insecure emotional person! ....or potentially sneaky! ? I just don't know and can't decide how to proceed with this.

All advice welcome and most appreciated

Idle Passerby

It wouldnt cause alarm bells as such but it seems a bit odd. If it was me Id start suspecting hes a bit of a drama queen. Either that or something happened on the night out that he is worried you'll find out about. For 3 dates in he seems a bit erratic in his behaviour.

Rachiee

I'd say you weren't exclusive after three dates and maybe he was flirting hanging with some girls / and didn't want to rub your face in it, or maybe he was just drunk and loads of really embarrassing photos were about to go up. Either way I'd say it's something he didn't want you to see. But no big deal and nothing to worry about still go with the flow if your having fun, maybe have an exclusivity talk in a few weeks.

Mr. Incognito

People seem to think that Facebook is something that actually matters.

Personally who gives a monkeys.

How did you realise he had removed you- oh you were stalking his page after the night out most likely.

Why dont you work on the actual relationship. Who cares about Facebook

Airbrushed, edited nonsense.

LegacyUser

Woah Mr. Incognito....salt in a wound or something? It's completely normal to "stalk" someone's page,everyone has done it and if you say you haven't ever been curious, you are lying.
I don't like Facebook personally,never have. I think the point the op is making is that his behaviour seems very odd. He added her then deletes her? Whatever your opinion about Facebook is that's not the point. The point is its odd behaviour and seems erratic in my opinion.
Op I would proceed with caution on this one. After 3 dates he's sounding like a bit of a drama queen.

Lisacatlover

He probably picked up on something in your reaction when he asked to add you after the first date (not really sure what'd be 'too quick' about that, people I've chatted to in passing at a party have added me plenty of times, let alone people I went on dates with) and then like he said didn't want you feel like he was overstepping so removed it again.

Really not a big deal. Alarm bells? Very insecure? SNEAKY? Don't get caught up overthinking every little thing and being melodramatic, you'll drive yourself demented. You've been out on three dates with the guy. Just relax, enjoy yourself, get to know each other and leave the analytics aside.

feeling blue

feeling blue wrote: »

Woah Mr. Incognito....salt in a wound or something? It's completely normal to "stalk" someone's page,everyone has done it and if you say you haven't ever been curious, you are lying.
I don't like Facebook personally,never have. I think the point the op is making is that his behaviour seems very odd. He added her then deletes her? Whatever your opinion about Facebook is that's not the point. The point is its odd behaviour and seems erratic in my opinion.
Op I would proceed with caution on this one. After 3 dates he's sounding like a bit of a drama queen.

I have never stalked anyone on Facebook. Im not on facebook myself and I couldn't care less. And I'm not lying either.

OP, he is probably trying to hide something he thinks you wouldn't like. Might not even be a big deal. Sounds like too much drama for me, but mightn't be a big deal for you.

Lavinia

Did he add you back afterwards?

Keane2baMused

Posts like this are exactly why I am no longer on fb. There is so much drama and crap and people live their lives through it like it is something real.

OP don't read too much into it. If this guy is for real you will find out soon enough, don't rely on fb to figure that out.

KikiDee

Keane2baMused wrote: »

Posts like this are exactly why I am no longer on fb. There is so much drama and crap and people live their lives through it like it is something real.

Snap....right there with you on that!


OP, it's still very early days yet. Don't over think this. If you're having fun with the guy, enjoy it and see what happens.