Nervous about move

LegacyUser

I'm an Irish woman, I've been out of university for over 5 years now, and I just accepted a job in a different part of England to where I live now.

It's a really interesting sounding, permanent job with a significant pay rise, and sort of fell into my lap after I interviewed at the company last year and they kept my details on file. I've been restless for about 2 years now in my current job and location, and was waiting for the right opportunity, which I think this is.

The thing is, 95% of the time I'm really excited about it, and the rest of the time I just want to hide under the duvet and run home to Ireland. There are no jobs for me there really, and I don't think I really need to _live_ there. I just feel a bit rootless.

I'll be turning 29 as I start, and know no one in this new part of the country, but it's pretty and there seems to be lots going on. I'm just scared about making friends and the effort of it all.

I'm sure lots of boardsies out there have moved around, at all sorts of ages, any advice? It's just a little overwhelming sometimes even though I know it's not a massive move, it feels like it is for me...

SAMTALK

Irishgirlinengland wrote: »

I'm an Irish woman, I've been out of university for over 5 years now, and I just accepted a job in a different part of England to where I live now.

It's a really interesting sounding, permanent job with a significant pay rise, and sort of fell into my lap after I interviewed at the company last year and they kept my details on file. I've been restless for about 2 years now in my current job and location, and was waiting for the right opportunity, which I think this is.

The thing is, 95% of the time I'm really excited about it, and the rest of the time I just want to hide under the duvet and run home to Ireland. There are no jobs for me there really, and I don't think I really need to _live_ there. I just feel a bit rootless.

I'll be turning 29 as I start, and know no one in this new part of the country, but it's pretty and there seems to be lots going on. I'm just scared about making friends and the effort of it all.

I'm sure lots of boardsies out there have moved around, at all sorts of ages, any advice? It's just a little overwhelming sometimes even though I know it's not a massive move, it feels like it is for me...

Never been in your position OP but I think if you're restless for the last 2 years you shouldnt stay until you're in a rut and its either too late to move or just a lot harder.

Have you anything or anyone to keep you where you are?

If I was your age again Id take opportunities and move more but then hindsight is a great thing

Keane2baMused

95% is as close if not closer than many will get when making a move (career and home).

If you have nothing holding you to you current role or the area you live why not take the chance on the offer? You've nothing to lose by trying.

LegacyUser

I mean this in the nicest possible way, but for the life of me I can't see what the problem is. A company came looking for you and a hugely improved career situation fell into your lap, in a country so close to Ireland that you could get home for weekends fairly regularly. Apart from the slight nervousness everyone feels starting a new job which very, very rarely proves well-founded, I can't see an issue for you here. Best of luck in the new job.

tailgunner

It's not every day you get an opportunity like that handed to you out of the blue, so if you've nothing tying you to where you are now, I'd go for it.

LeeLooLee

I left Ireland after college because there weren't any jobs and I've worked in loads of different countries since then, including the UK. I find that it always works out in the end and I always eventually make new friends wherever I go, so I wouldn't let that worry you too much. I think the job opportunity sounds way too good to pass up. Think of the positives - no foreign language to learn, it's not far at all from Ireland and it's also not far from where you live now, so you can always visit your friends.

I can't advise you more specifically about the part of the UK you're going to because I don't know where it is, but if it's a city or somewhere with stuff going on, you'll most likely be grand. Meetup is really big in most UK cities, so that's always a good option if you don't click with anyone at work. I'd only hesitate about moving somewhere really rural like Norfolk and it doesn't sound like you're doing that.

Nidgeweasel

You're only over the water.

I moved a few years ago out of necessity. Takes abit of adjustment but what move doesn't?

Where abouts in the UK?

Lavinia

Well you know, you can always come back. So why not give the new job/place a go of say 6 months and see.
It seems like you have nothing to lose

HelgaWard

Irishgirlinengland wrote: »

The thing is, 95% of the time I'm really excited about it, and the rest of the time I just want to hide under the duvet and run home to Ireland. There are no jobs for me there really, and I don't think I really need to _live_ there. I just feel a bit rootless.

I'll be turning 29 as I start, and know no one in this new part of the country, but it's pretty and there seems to be lots going on. I'm just scared about making friends and the effort of it all.

I'm sure lots of boardsies out there have moved around, at all sorts of ages, any advice? It's just a little overwhelming sometimes even though I know it's not a massive move, it feels like it is for me...

First of all, congratulations on your new job! I think what you are feeling is completely and utterly normal. Most people who are making a move are going to feel excited/anxious/nervous about it. You've done this before (ie moving to UK the first time) and you can do it again. It sounds like you are excited about your new roll, you obviously impressed your new company the first time you interviewed and the fact the remembered you for this new roll is a massive compliment. Go in with a positive and friendly attitude and this will help you settle in quickly. I agree qith other posters who suggested using meetup.com, sign yourself up for new classes when you move, be they exercise or for a hobby. Put yourself out there and you will meet new people and make new friends.

Best of luck, you never know who you'll meet!

LegacyUser

Congratulations. This sounds like a great move for you.

I have felt exactly the same and been in a similar situation although sometimes when I moved I had to find a job or go to one that was only temporary. Feel the fear and do it anyway is what I kept telling myself.

Join some meetups now so you can get out and about or find out about events, clubs in the area that interest you, maybe use your time off to do some touristy things and get used to the new place. Buy a guide book. Accept that this is happening and you have to make the transition as easy on yourself as possible.