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conceeding in argument

  • 04-03-2016 5:07pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Something I could do with a small bit of help and advice on.

    Have found I have a bit of a problem with conceeding in discussions. I tell myself going into the discussion that I cant concede here however I find Im hopeless at arguing my case & will rollover.

    Im v introverted by the way and quite and shy and not good at sticking up for myself.

    Its one of those things school doesn’t teach you unfortunately (I was a genius at school) Im v disappointed with myself writing this.

    Im in my 30ties now been working in industry over 10years go to toastmasters even to try and improve communication skills and haven’t seen much of an improvement.

    It makes me immensely frustrated after and I feel like I have been taken advantage of, and I know I have been on several occasions, its Im not just tough enough, and I don’t tell lies.
    Are there any exercises that I can do to help me with this, books to read, therapy even. Id love to be able to toughen up and shove things down peoples throat.


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  • #2
    CollyFlower
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,184 ✭✭✭CollyFlower


    I've heard most of the population are highly sensitive, we're wired differently neurologically... We all put on a front, sometimes.


  • #3
    SATSUMA
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 706 ✭✭✭SATSUMA


    Id love to be able to toughen up and shove things down peoples throat.[/quote]

    I think this is one for therapy...


  • #4
    Curry Addict
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,274 ✭✭✭Curry Addict


    debating wrote: »
    Something I could do with a small bit of help and advice on.

    Have found I have a bit of a problem with conceeding in discussions. I tell myself going into the discussion that I cant concede here however I find Im hopeless at arguing my case & will rollover.

    Im v introverted by the way and quite and shy and not good at sticking up for myself.

    Its one of those things school doesn’t teach you unfortunately (I was a genius at school) Im v disappointed with myself writing this.

    Im in my 30ties now been working in industry over 10years go to toastmasters even to try and improve communication skills and haven’t seen much of an improvement.

    It makes me immensely frustrated after and I feel like I have been taken advantage of, and I know I have been on several occasions, its Im not just tough enough, and I don’t tell lies.
    Are there any exercises that I can do to help me with this, books to read, therapy even. Id love to be able to toughen up and shove things down peoples throat.

    in discussion there is no real right or wrong. discussion is exploring the facts. You give your 2c and what will be will be. if its a 50 50 situation and you feel the other person pushes their ideals beyond what you feel is appropriate you simply agree to differ and make that understood. It doesn't need to be agressive it can be a whisper and time will tell the outcome.


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