Recommend a counsellor

LegacyUser

Hey guys, I’m going through a very tough time right now and I’m looking for a little help. I work full time but don’t have much disposable income. I’m looking for some low cost counselling. Can anyone recommend a decent counsellor around the south side? Since I’m working full time would it be possible to see a counsellor after the normal 9-5? I only started a new job 6 weeks ago and don’t want to take any time off.

I visited my doctor but he told me there was nothing wrong with me. He told me to keep my head up and always try to stay positive. He didn’t want to put me on anti-depressant as they kind of mess with your head a bit. I’m not sure if I’m depressed or not but I know there is something wrong with me. I think counselling is the best option. I don’t cry, I’m not suicidal and I kind of live a functional life. I go to the gym in my spare time. But the problem is that I’m just a flat and emotionless. I’m never happy or I don’t get excited about anything. I feel extreme stress every day and lost all my confidence. I don’t socialise anymore as I simply don’t have the confidence.

A little background about myself. I lived 2 years abroad in Australia. I had the best time of my life there. Loved every second. Loved my job and made loads of friends. I also had a loving girlfriend there too. I had a great time with her but didn’t want to marry her. So I left her. Since I didn’t have the correct visa I also had to leave Australia. That’s when the problems started. I came back to Ireland and got quite a decent job but missed Australia immensely. All my friends in Ireland had since moved on with their lives. They all got either married or were in long term relationships. I didn’t enjoy my job and made no friends in work. During this time I also entered into another relationship. I recently changed jobs but still find myself in a bit of a toxic environment. I’m not enjoying my new job. I was always unsure whether I did the right thing by breaking up with the 2nd girlfriend. I was absolutely madly in love with this girl and she was the most beautiful girl in the world but we argued quite a bit. I got sick of the arguments and just ended the relationship. I was going through a hard time too so probably wasn’t the best boyfriend either but she was also in the wrong a lot of the time. She was heartbroken but has since moved on. She now has a new boyfriend. There is no way we are getting back together.

I’ve always suffered extreme stress in work since I arrived back from Oz. I get a burning sensation in front of my head. I neck and shoulder muscles are constantly tense which gives me headaches. I suffer from extreme fatigue and lost all my confidence. I’m a shell of the person I used to be. People don’t want to socialise with me because I believe I’m not good entertainment. I just go through the emotions. I want my old self back.

So I’m asking if anyone can recommend a low cost counsellor outside of business hours? Has anyone suffered similar symptoms and overcome them? If so, how?

Neyite

Mod:

I'm really sorry OP, but recommendations for counsellors is not allowed here. However many counsellors are quite flexible about evening and possibly weekend appointments so it might be best to find a few that do offer slots that suit you, then ask around for recommendations from your GP or from friends.

All the best