I drank too much and had sex I dont remember

LegacyUser

I was out at the weekend and ended up drinking too much (im female). I met my friend (with benefits) and we went back to mine. All fine. I don't remember any of the night from when I left the club until the next morning. I do remember at one stage he thrusted so hard i ended up bleeding and running to the bathroom in severe pain but everything else is blank, before and after. I told him the next morning that I didn't remember anything and that I was still bleeding and in pain. I just don't understand how he went at it so hard that he tore my skin? He didn't offer an explanation, or an apology that i remember and left shortly after. There has been no contact since.

Has this ever happened to anyone else? I have never had such a blackout before and I did have a lot to drink, I wouldn't usually but I was celebrating a close friend's birthday, so i definitely had a part to play.

I suppose i'm just shocked that I got hurt and cant remember.

lifeandtimes

But you can remember? You say it in your post he thrust too hard and your bled.

Could have been because there wasn't any lubricant used,it's happened to me before. As for him not contacting you it may be a case as he's too embarrassed also he's a fwb,im not sure of the dynamic of your relationship but isn't it just for sex until the next time?

My advice would be if it's still sore go to your gp to get checked up. Maybe lay off drinking so hard next time too

LegacyUser

Yes anyone can blackout on alcohol and being female makes you more vulnerable to it. Did you do shots? That's when it often happens, to much alcohol too soon. Always pace yourself.

Anyway, don't be too hard on yourself. Learn and move on.

Faith

Is your question more about the pain/bleeding or about not remembering the sex?

There's a few things that could explain pain and bleeding after sex, but in the interests of avoiding medical information, I'd recommend going to your GP and getting a quick exam to make sure everything is okay.

Merkin

I second that. If you have bleeding/pain after sex you should really go and see your GP.

suicide_circus

How drunk was he? If yous were both all over the shop, the, err...angle of approach could easy be thrown off and cause damage that way.

Also its pretty scary for a guy when a girl tells him she has no memory of them having sex as it all feels a bit rapey at that point.

Emme

If you're embarrassed to go to your GP it might be easier to approach the Well Woman Centre. They are used to dealing with all aspects of women's health.

I know people are saying your FWB might be embarrassed but he hasn't shown much consideration towards you. Maybe he thought you had come on your period.

Get yourself checked out medically and let the FWB go.

I'm not moralising but it isn't good for your own safety to drink so much that you can't remember much.