Grindr

DareGod

Do any of you guys use Grindr?

I'm wondering specifically about Grindr, as opposed to Tindr, Plenty Of Fish, etc.

Dating websites have been around for twenty years, and are nothing new, so, dating apps like Tindr are therefore nothing new either (they just used to be websites instead of apps.)

I always got the impression that Grindr, specifically, was an app for arranging sexual hookups with others. However, I'm finding that there are a lot of guys on Grindr who are very vocal about being very much against sexual hookups, and it makes me wonder why are they on an app that has been always been geared mainly towards hookups?

If you're looking for friends or for love, would you not instead go and use a dating app like Tindr, and leave Grindr to those who are using it for what it was intended?

(Obviously, always use protection and practice very safe sex.)

Just curious about your thoughts on this.

Annasopra

Some use it for sex. Some use it for dates. I don't see an issue really.

DareGod

Joeytheparrot wrote: »

Some use it for sex. Some use it for dates. I don't see an issue really.

And I wouldn't see an issue, either. But it is very common that a lot of those guys who are using it for dates and not sex make judgemental comments at those who are using it for sex.

lyinghere

DareGod wrote: »

And I wouldn't see an issue, either. But it is very common that a lot of those guys who are using it for dates and not sex make judgemental comments at those who are using it for sex.

A lot of the time it's just things like "Not into NSA" which is pretty harmless and not judgemental in my opinion.

Are you sure you're just not perceiving this as judgemental.

L1011

Why you'd use a geolocation app designed solely for extremely quick sex for dating purpose I don't know. I don't generally mow my lawn with a hair clippers.

Rick_

It's not designed solely for quick sex. It contains options to state what you are looking for, one of them includes "Relationship" and even "Friends" or "e-mail/chat", so people do use it for finding love, some new buddies or others for a quick screw. It isn't a casual sex app. People use it based on the options it gives people, one facet happens to be casual sex.

The notion that it, like Gaydar, is a sleazy site/app that's just for anonymous sex is silly and incorrect.

Annasopra

Who said it was designed solely for extremely quick sex?

L1011

Joeytheparrot wrote: »

Who said it was designed solely for extremely quick sex?

The founders, up until the time Apple's prudishness filter required them not to do so.

The "relationship"/"friendship" etc options were there to allow people plausible deniability if they have it installed.

Its an incredibly unsuitable dating app. Using it for that purpose is going to provide little in the way of results and dilutes what it was actually made for.

Rick_

Well, it provided results for me and plenty of others worldwide who formed long term relationships by using it.

wakka12

Id say a good 1/3 of profiles I see say no NSA. Im sure theres enough of them on there for a lot to be able to find dates and relationships

nozipcode

L1011 wrote: »

Why you'd use a geolocation app designed solely for extremely quick sex for dating purpose I don't know. I don't generally mow my lawn with a hair clippers.

THe app itself has labels and settings to indicate if you are looking for dates or 'right now'. Who said Grindr was only for hookups?

These things generally take on their own life after being released by the developers. I have not seen any of this 'NSA prejudice' that is being referred to on Grindr. If anything its the opposite.

If people filled in their profiles there'd be no confusion as to whether a guy is looking for a date or coffee or 'right now'. Again, I dont see the issue - people should be able to use it as they please.

playedalive

Ah yes another grindr thread. Tbh, I think it's just an app you need to take with a pinch of salt. Easier said than done when you're perhaps a little lonely and would like to put yourself out there for something a little more substantial than a casual NSA meet.

While I never got any casual dating or a relationship out of it, I did make a few friends out of it which helps and it did kill 'curiosity' I guess (but you have to be very careful

Iopu

I alway's only get guys twice my age or won't show their face; looking for hookups messaging me on it. Tinder ftw.

DareGod

lyinghere wrote: »

A lot of the time it's just things like "Not into NSA" which is pretty harmless and not judgemental in my opinion.

Are you sure you're just not perceiving this as judgemental.

No, I wasn't referring to harmless non-judgemental comments like "Not into NSA."

DareGod

Fair enough if the app wasn't designed to be mainly geared towards usage for sexual hook-ups, but I find the occasional judgement of those who are using it for that purpose (which I and others have experienced first-hand) to be irritating.

newacc2015

L1011 wrote: »

Its an incredibly unsuitable dating app. Using it for that purpose is going to provide little in the way of results and dilutes what it was actually made for.

Why? It is the closet you will get to real life dating. You get to see guys beside you, who are interested in you. Unlike other online dating sites, where you have guys hundreds of miles away on it.

You might have had bad experiences on it. But all the my gay friends are on it and decent people looking for relationships (hook ups along the way too). Saying everyone on grindr just wants sex is untrue.

floggg

L1011 wrote: »

Why you'd use a geolocation app designed solely for extremely quick sex for dating purpose I don't know. I don't generally mow my lawn with a hair clippers.

Bull****. Met my husband there. You can use it however you want.

Just because you didn't get what you wanted from the experience, don't make petty judgments about others who do

Annasopra

12Phase wrote: »

I think it comes down to how you use it.
Tinder is probably more civilised because of the Facebook sign on.

Hahaha

12Phase

Joeytheparrot wrote: »

Hahaha

What's so funny?

People make genuine use of dating sites and Tinder is most definitely more civilised. The majority genuinely do seem to use their actual Facebook profiles and are pretty open and upfront about being on it for dating purposes.

Some aren't but you can figure that out rather rapidly.

Like it or not, online dating has been a massive icebreaker for many LGBT ppl. It's a lot less scary than going into a bar and chatting someone up and quite a % of people of people use it to meet people and not just to cut straight to hooking up semi anonymously.

It's all a matter of how you use it and how you interact with people.

You'll know in 2 minutes if someone is just doing random GPS driven hook ups or not.

Several people I know, both gay and straight have met long term partners on Tinder and other siteS.

Annasopra

Sorry I just thought what you seemed a bit funny. Didn't mean to offend.

Paramite Pie

I wasnt sure if there were many gay lads on tindr. I guess i'll make the switch.:D

12Phase

Loads!

Fleawuss

DareGod wrote: »

Do any of you guys use Grindr?

I'm wondering specifically about Grindr, as opposed to Tindr, Plenty Of Fish, etc.

Dating websites have been around for twenty years, and are nothing new, so, dating apps like Tindr are therefore nothing new either (they just used to be websites instead of apps.)

I always got the impression that Grindr, specifically, was an app for arranging sexual hookups with others. However, I'm finding that there are a lot of guys on Grindr who are very vocal about being very much against sexual hookups, and it makes me wonder why are they on an app that has been always been geared mainly towards hookups?

If you're looking for friends or for love, would you not instead go and use a dating app like Tindr, and leave Grindr to those who are using it for what it was intended?

(Obviously, always use protection and practice very safe sex.)

Just curious about your thoughts on this.

I regard my private life as exactly that. The rules of Boards exclude me from responding to you in the manner I wish.

Dickie10

do u have to pay to download the grindr app on your iphone??

smncnnr

Not for the standard version, although there is a paid "Xtra" version.

Dickie10

when i went to download it, it sent me to my payment details, as if i were going to hav to pay for it, the same with tinder

Rick_

If it is your first time using the app store for whatever software you have (iOS or Android) you still have to have a card on file to download stuff, even if the apps are free. It's to hook you in incase you want that small in app purchase or one off game for a less than a Euro.

There might be options to skip or continue without payment details but these will likely need to be done on a computer and not on your device.

wakka12

Dickie10 wrote: »

when i went to download it, it sent me to my payment details, as if i were going to hav to pay for it, the same with tinder

Payment details always come up for me when I get any app. They're still free though, if it says theyre free then they are. Apple still puts the download down on your account though

imme

So,
I've never used Grindr
Thought I might give it a go

Was in the process of installing the app yesterday

They give up the usual warnings/notifications
This is what you're signing up to etc

Decided I would read what they said instead of just clicking 'yes'

I would give them access to all sorts of things from pictures to social media sh1te etc etc etc etc etc

Seemed like a lot of personal/private info to sign away

I said 'NO'

Are you happy to sign away personal information.

baby and crumble

imme wrote: »

Are you happy to sign away personal information.

A lot of people are. 99% of apps have similar permissions these days. Google etc tracks your movements from the GPS tracker on your phone.

ongarboy

Also, if you want to send photos to potential dates/hook ups, Grindr would need to access your photo library to do that so that's what you're accepting when you click yes. If you download Whatsapp, Viber, Facebook, Tinder or any app involving social media communication, you'll be asked the same questions. It's to satisfy data privacy laws. It's not that it's going to suddenly extract all your private photos and send them to everyone with a Grindr account to enjoy/drool over!:)

imme

ongarboy wrote: »

Also, if you want to send photos to potential dates/hook ups, Grindr would need to access your photo library to do that so that's what you're accepting when you click yes. If you download Whatsapp, Viber, Facebook, Tinder or any app involving social media communication, you'll be asked the same questions. It's to satisfy data privacy laws. It's not that it's going to suddenly extract all your private photos and send them to everyone with a Grindr account to enjoy/drool over!:)

My reading of the warning was that all photos etc would be accessible

If you have a profile pic/pics they're a different thing as you're choosing to put them on that specific platform/app.

Ash885

It's to allow access to the folder so when/if you do choose to upload a picture they can access its location on your phone. If you read the fine print of things you've uploaded on Facebook or Twitter....now there's where the fear should lie!

imme

Ash885 wrote: »

It's to allow access to the folder so when/if you do choose to upload a picture they can access its location on your phone. If you read the fine print of things you've uploaded on Facebook or Twitter....now there's where the fear should lie!

Forgive my innocence but why would that be necessary

Ash885

You're asking why it's important to have a photo on an app which, lets be honest, is largely based off of looks? Hmm okay...

imme

Ash885 wrote: »

You're asking why it's important to have a photo on an app which, lets be honest, is largely based off of looks? Hmm okay...

NO

I wasn't asking that.

I was asking why it would be necessary for the company to have access to peoples pics, all their pics as I understand it, if they've already uploaded one.

Thanks for your understanding reply =p

ixoy

imme wrote: »

I was asking why it would be necessary for the company to have access to peoples pics, all their pics as I understand it, if they've already uploaded one.

You misunderstand it here - the permissions for the apps aren't all that granular (at least on Android). There's a blanket permission for "Photos" access. It doesn't mean at all that the app is going to upload your photos - it just indicates that the app will need, at some point, access to your photos library (i.e. when you're uploading a photo). You're saying "Grand, I know you'll need this access".