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Is it all in my head?

  • 16-02-2016 11:51am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi Everyone,
    Hoping you can help me out not sure if it's something to be worried about or if I'm just being paranoid.

    Little bit of background. My partner and I have been together for 8 years and have a young child together. We are generally pretty happy and get along (the occasional argument which I'm sure is standard for most). A few years back we broke up for a while and I found out he had been speaking to 2 girls (both exes) and 1 of whom he was friendly with even when we were together. He no longer speaks to either of them but in recent weeks I have found him searching for their social media posts and pages etc. As far as I know there has been no contact (I'm not going snooping) but this concerns me. Why would he be searching for them? Before this relationship I was in another relationship which ended very badly with a lot of hurt on my part from cheating. I trust him not to cheat but I'm worried he's bored.

    Is this all in my head and am I holding on to something from the past or does this seem like something to be worried about?


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  • #2
    Neyite
    Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,948 Mod ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    Nosiness maybe?

    I've an ex that I'd cross the road to avoid. He was a nasty piece of work. But I occasionally wonder how life turned out for him and if karma bit his ass yet. Haven't looked in ages, but I did google him from time to time.

    I've a couple of ex's on my FB that I haven't interacted with in person, but ended amicably enough and it's nice to see how life is going for them. One is divorcing, and it saddens me because I remember bumping into him newly engaged and being delighted at his obvious happiness, and he's a nice guy. Another has overcome a serious illness that he wasn't expected to survive and doing really well in his own business, something he was always passionate about, he's married with kids and life (the one he never thought he'd get a shot at) is really good for him.

    If there were messages, then its more concerning, but if its just checking out their profiles, then probably just idle curiosity?


  • #3
    magicmushroom
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 824 ✭✭✭magicmushroom


    I've looked up my exes on FB and will again - it's just nosiness though.
    I'd have zero interest in meeting with them, messaging them etc - it's just when I'm bored at home and Facebook is open, I sometimes look up people from my past to see what they're up to.

    I wouldn't worry about it :)


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