Called evil

Marle Meza

Hi there,

Not sure if I am posting in the right forum, if not please move this to the correct one.

I am currently living with someone whom I have had a history with. We are not in a relationship. I am with someone else. My current living arrangement is only because it is all I can afford on my income.

Ok, thing is about the person I live with he is quite extreme in his views and spends a lot of time chatting with people who have the same views as himself. Now he goes from one extreme to the other...as in he says not nice things about certain cultures....and he is a born again evangelical christian, he was baptised into the faith a couple of years ago.

I have not been well lately and he knows this. Tonight he told me he didn't want to talk to me because what I say is evil and the devil, because of me not being well. I told him to stop saying that and he said that I am on not on his level and he went on a tirade of words negative ones to me. I said I would never say that to him if he was not feeling well and would support him, and said support goes both ways, but he closed his mind and went back listening to his christian music.
He has extremist attitudes which I don't like and I hear it on a daily basis. Then he goes and listens or watches his christian programmes.

I feel awful and been shaking with nerves cos of what he said. I keep on thinking about it. I suffer from anxiety and stress yet this doesn't stop him saying what he says.
How can I stop thinking about what he said cos it has upset me, saying I was evil and that the devil has got a hold of me.

I would not have posted this at all but I am just upset at what he said.

This is a genuine post and genuinely happened tonight.

Taltos

OP, first off you are not evil.

Your friend though sounds like he needs professional help. And that is the nicest way of saying what I am thinking here.

My suggestion is you need to move out and separate your life from his. His views and beliefs are frankly not what I would consider normal logical thinking, they're more akin to religious extremism or someone who wears a tinfoil hat to stop the thoughts being projected into his head. Not trying to be funny or scare you hear but how many assaults or worse do we hear of on the media where the perpetrator claims they were killing the devil or some other such nonsense.

Realistically being unwell the best thing you can do is watch out for yourself and start putting plans in place to find somewhere else to live away from this person.

xband

You need to move ASAP

This is a potential personal safety issue.

Could you get some help from family or friends to provide you with temporary accommodation ?

What you're describing there is someone who sounds like they may be suffering from a serious mental illness and a possible delusion that could get you injured should he act on it.

You're not describing someone with what sounds like a normal grip on reality.

What's worrying me is that he's decided to make you a focus of this confused view of the world and he's seeing you as "evil"

I wouldn't suggest getting into a confrontation with him and I would also suggest taking security precautions like locking your door while sleeping but preferably moving out ASAP.

The guy most likely needs professional help but first make sure you're safe and not at risk of being harmed should he decide to act out on this delusional state.

It's nothing that you've done and it's nothing that he's done. Sometimes some people's brains simply have technical issues that cause these problems.

You need to first and foremost get yourself out of what might be harms way. Then maybe see if you can get in touch with his family or someone who can get him help.

First priority though is your own personal safety.

Unfortunately, this to me sounds like a potentially dangerous situation.

frostyjacks

He sounds a little immature with the name calling, but you're best just to ignore it and don't let it bother you.

A_Sober_Paddy

Sounds like a religious fundamentalist, you could get him locked up quickly if you were a little creative, job done...no need to break any laws eithers

frostyjacks

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

Sounds like a religious fundamentalist, you could get him locked up quickly if you were a little creative, job done...no need to break any laws eithers

Locked up for name-calling? The jails would be full in no time.

mapaca

This sounds like a potentially dangerous situation, get yourself out of there as soon as you can.

A_Sober_Paddy

frostyjacks wrote: »

Locked up for name-calling? The jails would be full in no time.

Op mentioned talking derogatory towards other races and cultures, and from a religious fundamentalist

discus

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

Sounds like a religious fundamentalist, you could get him locked up quickly if you were a little creative, job done...no need to break any laws eithers

That's disgusting.

orthsquel

Would he in the past always have said things like that, or only since joining a religious group? Would you have had issues with him in the past?

I ask because of this

Marle Meza wrote: »

Tonight he told me he didn't want to talk to me because what I say is evil and the devil, because of me not being well. I told him to stop saying that and he said that I am on not on his level and he went on a tirade of words negative ones to me.

I would see it as someone who either is heavily influenced by some sort of religious ideology while behaving abnormally, or someone who is hiding behind religion to bully and intimidate you for their own personal reasons. You say you have a history... a romantic history? Perhaps he wishes to intimidate you because you're with someone else and he doesn't like it.

If his behaviour and manner towards you is making you uncomfortable then I think for your own safety, your own peace of mind, your own sense of comfort you ought to start looking for somewhere else to live. Putting his religion aside, I personally wouldn't be comfortable living in an environment where I feel like I'm going to be walking on eggshells around a person or subjected to unpredictable behaviour patterns or outbursts.

And tbh if someone said (in seriousness) to me that I was evil and the devil because I was feeling sick I'd probably laugh it off as mumbo jumbo, but wonder seriously about the person who said it and what sort of mental state they are in.

ongarboy

Can't help thinking of recent court cases in the news regarding the murder of a guy in Castleknock by his psychotic housemate and murder of girl in Holland & Barrett in Kilkenny by a schizophrenic who thought she was the devil. Both accused used insanity as their guilty plea. Not saying this is the case here and not trying to unnecessarily alarm you OP but he does not sound right in the head and I suggest you find alternative accommodation.

backspacer

Have you got a friend you could stay with OP? Anywhere at all at this point while making alternative living arrangements. Being religious is one thing, but accusing you of being the devil suggests a whole other set of issues that you don't want to get involved with. For your own sake get out ASAP.

Knasher

OP sharing with somebody might be all you can afford at the moment, but it seems very unlikely that living with this person in particular is all you can afford. You're facing some illness, and I really can't imagine that the added stress from living with a person like this is helping you.