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How to let go and move on

  • 31-01-2016 9:40pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Where to start..

    Recently broke up with my girlfriend, mutual, lots of issues there and I'm ok with accepting it. We never really said goodbye properly, just tears and she walked out. I'll be ok with the actual break up, i'll get used to being on my own in time. But I'm just so worried about her and its hard to let that go.

    We had lots of arguments and teary crises, it was my first long term relationship, she struggles with anxiety and depression and it worried me to death at times, but we got through it. Now, i can see social media posts from her about her feeling depressed and i'm just worried. There's nothing I can do any more to look after her as such, I cant talk to her, calm her etc. I hate that this may trigger her depression, and I know she struggled to talk to anyone about it, but she did to me eventually, and i just hate that she might be on her own now when she's down.

    I'm not sure what to do. I know myself a clean break is probably best in lots of break ups, I'd like to be friends maybe but in reality I'm not sure thats possible. Kinda want to know how to deal with the worry, I'm not sure I can just forget about her


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  • #2
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,843 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    howtomoveon wrote: »
    Where to start..

    Recently broke up with my girlfriend, mutual, lots of issues there and I'm ok with accepting it. We never really said goodbye properly, just tears and she walked out. I'll be ok with the actual break up, i'll get used to being on my own in time. But I'm just so worried about her and its hard to let that go.

    We had lots of arguments and teary crises, it was my first long term relationship, she struggles with anxiety and depression and it worried me to death at times, but we got through it. Now, i can see social media posts from her about her feeling depressed and i'm just worried. There's nothing I can do any more to look after her as such, I cant talk to her, calm her etc. I hate that this may trigger her depression, and I know she struggled to talk to anyone about it, but she did to me eventually, and i just hate that she might be on her own now when she's down.

    I'm not sure what to do. I know myself a clean break is probably best in lots of break ups, I'd like to be friends maybe but in reality I'm not sure thats possible. Kinda want to know how to deal with the worry, I'm not sure I can just forget about her

    In my experience, its hard to be part of the problem and part of the solution at the same time.

    Does your ex have family and friends around? If so, it would be better for her to turn to them for support.

    Maybe you should also stop following her on social media (turn off notifications of FB if you don't want to upset her by unfriending her) as its probably not doing you any good in terms of moving on yourself to see her updates all the time.


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