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Ditched my Counsellor

  • 19-01-2016 01:34PM
    #1
    Puibo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 196 ✭✭


    Ive recently made step to tackle depression that has hung over me for seven or eight years. I went to my GP and was given the number of a counsellor.

    I went to see her twice and have since told her i did not want to continue treatment. Truth is i found her disorganised. She never had paper to hand and always had to go rootng for some. Had to leave the room to gets books and that.

    Also on the second visit i could hear somebody in the next room eating what i can only imagine was a bowl of cereal or something (took place in her house).

    Also she asked me if i watch porn with my partner which i found a little intrusive. Thos was within 30mins of meeting her.

    My question is am i being to hasty or is this bad on her behalf.


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  • #2
    Ken.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,898 ✭✭✭✭Ken.


    Mod-Moved to personal issues. Please read the local charter before posting. Thank you.


  • #3
    the_pen_turner
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,680 ✭✭✭the_pen_turner


    Puibo wrote: »
    Ive recently made step to tackle depression that has hung over me for seven or eight years. I went to my GP and was given the number of a counsellor.
    great to hear. most people with depression rely on medication and don't seek out proper help
    I went to see her twice and have since told her i did not want to continue treatment. Truth is i found her disorganised. She never had paper to hand and always had to go rootng for some. Had to leave the room to gets books and that.

    Also on the second visit i could hear somebody in the next room eating what i can only imagine was a bowl of cereal or something (took place in her house).
    I wouldn't have a problem with the eating but would with the possibility that your privacy isn't a priority. surely she has one room dedicated to this and your not just in the family sitting room
    Also she asked me if i watch porn with my partner which i found a little intrusive. Thos was within 30mins of meeting her. only you know whether that is a relevant topic or not. its a bit odd but she might have a valid reason for it

    My question is am i being to hasty or is this bad on her behalf.

    being disorganised isn't good. she should at least be ready for your appointment


  • #4
    Keane2baMused
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,576 ✭✭✭Keane2baMused


    She doesn't sound very professional so I don't blame you.

    Many people won't connect with the first counsellor they attend either, or even the second. But don't let this put you off counselling. Please do seek out another counsellor and give it a good shot. Most will be very well prepared and professional.


  • #5
    sporina
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,116 ✭✭✭sporina


    hi, first of all, fair play to you for getting help.. thats half the battle..

    Regards the counsellor - you were right to leave if you were not comfortable; and a pat on the back to you for that too - shows you are assertive..

    When looking for a therapist regardless of how well qualified or recommended a therapist is, it really comes down to whether ye click or not. And if ye did not click, then there would be nothing wrong with not continuing with them.

    But in this case, you have obvious reasons to not want to continue seeing her.

    Look for someone else, and do tell your Dr about your experience - he may want to know; esp. if he is recommending her to his patients.

    But for security, when looking for a therapist, it is better to make sure that they are accredited with the IACP (Irish Assoc Counselling and Psychotherapy)

    good luck and take care


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