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how do you know if he's just being friendly or if he's flirting?

  • 14-01-2016 10:07pm
    #1
    foxylaydee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 99 ✭✭


    Im really bad at these kind of things. Only realise he was flirting with me if friend points it out.

    Im not talking about meeting a guy at pub/ club... but more casually out and about like at a bus stop, queue, at work...


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  • #2
    silverbolt
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 362 ✭✭silverbolt


    honestly as a bloke im just as bad at picking it up flirting signals as well.

    Theres usually, eye contact, hair touching, leaning close, nervous laugh. Supposedly - best i got.


  • #3
    astonaidan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,456 ✭✭✭astonaidan


    As a guy, I think what find works for me is eye contact and a cheeky smile. Actually thats all I ever do, like I generally talk the same way, its more if I fancy a girl it will always be her I would aim the smile at :cool:


  • #4
    foxylaydee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 99 ✭✭foxylaydee


    So astonaidan, with regards to eye contact. I'm guessing it's not only in conversation. I suppose you would keep looking across at her when she's not looking, and look away when she catches you? Things like that is it?


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Well you kinda have to maintain eye contact when having a conversation with someone, so I guess it would be when you're talkin to someone else or a group or whatever and repeatedly making eye contact with the person you like, not crazy like but more than you would normally. The only way I've kind of copped that a guy might be flirting with me is when I'm speaking to him and I catch eyes with him and he's grinning, seemingly for no reason because what I'm saying wasn't particularly funny.


  • #6
    njs030
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,030 ✭✭✭njs030


    foxylaydee wrote: »
    So astonaidan, with regards to eye contact. I'm guessing it's not only in conversation. I suppose you would keep looking across at her when she's not looking, and look away when she catches you? Things like that is it?

    Is there a reason you're asking or is it just general interest?


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  • #7
    foxylaydee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 99 ✭✭foxylaydee


    Well, i'm single.. and slightly socially awkward. I really need to get out more. Might help with meeting guys.

    I mean do girls approach guys? What do you talk about? How do you know if he's interested when you do talk? Will he just not really make much of an effort to respond? Or is he just being a lad/quiet/?

    Ya, I should really know these kinda stuff by now...


  • #8
    astonaidan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,456 ✭✭✭astonaidan


    foxylaydee wrote: »
    So astonaidan, with regards to eye contact. I'm guessing it's not only in conversation. I suppose you would keep looking across at her when she's not looking, and look away when she catches you? Things like that is it?

    Well yeah thats one way, if you see a guy look at you more than once hes interested in you, if you like him smile when he looks again and he will know, then either wait for him to come over or eh its 2016 go over and talk to him.
    If its in a group of friends, if their is a joke or story being told, the easiest way I found is when the punch line is said, see who looks at who, thats a way I see if girls are interested in me.
    But these are just things I notice and well their are hundreds more, hence why I get annoyed when girls/guys dont notice other flirting with them.


  • #9
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    If he looks at you a lot, especially when you're not engaged in conversation.
    If he constantly smiles or laughs in your presence, combined with looking at you a lot.
    If he tries to make you laugh or laughs too easily at things you say.
    If he seems a bit self conscious in your presence EG fiddling, messing with his hair, stumbling over his words a bit.
    If he looks for any opportunity to engage you in conversations.
    If he asks you personal questions - what you doing for the weekend? How many brothers and sisters do you have? How long have you lived in XY for? (Might also be fishing around to see if you have a boyfriend)
    If he slags you a lot.

    Any one of the above really.
    And general rule - if you think he likes you, then he almost certainly does.


  • #10
    astonaidan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,456 ✭✭✭astonaidan


    beks101 wrote: »
    If he looks at you a lot, especially when you're not engaged in conversation.
    If he constantly smiles or laughs in your presence, combined with looking at you a lot.
    If he tries to make you laugh or laughs too easily at things you say.
    If he seems a bit self conscious in your presence EG fiddling, messing with his hair, stumbling over his words a bit.
    If he looks for any opportunity to engage you in conversations.
    If he asks you personal questions - what you doing for the weekend? How many brothers and sisters do you have? How long have you lived in XY for? (Might also be fishing around to see if you have a boyfriend)
    If he slags you a lot.

    Any one of the above really.
    And general rule - if you think he likes you, then he almost certainly does.

    This!! Ignoring everything else, this is the most solid piece of advice you can give someone :D


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