Start or the End?

LegacyUser

hi all,

I'll keep this brief.

Gay guy here. Recently met someone who I really like (this never happens) and fell head over heels. Only met in early December so obviously early days yet. Saw him last a few days after Stephen's Day and he's been away travelling with work since then. He's travelling to a few different places around Oz but has a day off every day he works (to travel, relax etc.). Anyway, he said he'd be in contact with me but I've barely heard from him and checking his viber he seems to be constantly online (he has a separate work phone so it's not for that).

I know it's only early days but should I take the hint here? He's home in a day or two but I actually don't know when so I dunno... bit deflated as really thought it'd go somewhere and he had said things that led me to believe that.

I texted him on the 2nd and haven't heard from him since. From FB i can see that he's still abroad (checking in etc.). If he's time to do that kinda ****e and like random crap on FB shouldn't he be OK to text me once a day or even every two days just to keep me keen or whatever? BTW he wouldn't know I feel like this, been trying my best to play it cool!

Midnight Sundance

new-guy-meh wrote: »

hi all,

I'll keep this brief.

Gay guy here. Recently met someone who I really like (this never happens) and fell head over heels. Only met in early December so obviously early days yet. Saw him last a few days after Stephen's Day and he's been away travelling with work since then. He's travelling to a few different places around Oz but has a day off every day he works (to travel, relax etc.). Anyway, he said he'd be in contact with me but I've barely heard from him and checking his viber he seems to be constantly online (he has a separate work phone so it's not for that).

I know it's only early days but should I take the hint here? He's home in a day or two but I actually don't know when so I dunno... bit deflated as really thought it'd go somewhere and he had said things that led me to believe that.

I texted him on the 2nd and haven't heard from him since. From FB i can see that he's still abroad (checking in etc.). If he's time to do that kinda ****e and like random crap on FB shouldn't he be OK to text me once a day or even every two days just to keep me keen or whatever? BTW he wouldn't know I feel like this, been trying my best to play it cool!

To be honest I think you already know the answer to your question. If he's not in contact then I would move on and when he gets home from Oz and gets in touch then maybe reconcider .
He's on holidays, probably our meeting new people everyday. Being honest, someone he met just before Christmas is probably now on his priority list right now.
That might change when he comes home.
Keep going out and having fun in the meantime. Put him to the back of your mind for the moment and if he doesn't check in with you when he comes home delete his number n Facebook friendship so you can't keep checking up on him.
youll drive yourself crazy

Dial Hard

new-guy-meh wrote:

I texted him on the 2nd and haven't heard from him since. From FB i can see that he's still abroad (checking in etc.). If he's time to do that kinda ****e and like random crap on FB shouldn't he be OK to text me once a day or even every two days just to keep me keen or whatever? BTW he wouldn't know I feel like this, been trying my best to play it cool!

You'll get a lot of people on here saying it's really early days, chill the beans, but tbh, in my experience (with straight men, admittedly), the ones who come out with all sorts of declarations in the first week or two are usually the very ones who do a quick fade. I call them magnesium flares. And while I understand that yes, he's away, he's working, he's travelling, the fact of the matter is that it takes two seconds out of the day to text someone and the fact that he hasn't done that, despite being online so much, speaks volumes imo.

I'm sorry if all that sounds very blunt, OP. But I've been there too a few times myself in the past and it's a head-wreck and a time-sink and the worst part of it all is how much it makes you doubt your own instincts. In this case, I think yours are right.

Ursus Horribilis

Got to agree with the person above me. I've also found in my own experience that when you find yourself not quite sure where you stand with someone, it's because you don't. I don't agree with the school of thought that says that it's early days/he's very busy. Someone who has met a person they like will make the effort to stay in touch. Sending a text only takes a few moments.

LegacyUser

Thanks all for the replies.

He is still away until next week or so. I was very sleepy (i.e. needy) and texted him to say hi and got immediate responses and him apologising for not being in contact (he has been busy and blamed the time zone etc). I still think it's a bit suspicious. I've decided to wait til he comes home and ask for a date, if he says yes then I'll ask him how he got on and that I want to hear all the news and that and see. If he says no I'll just say that's grand and move on!

Bit sad about it but sure I'll just move on if it doesn't work out. Just a shame as have had bad luck recently and thought this was going to be good.