Feel like I should be "doing" more in my life?

LegacyUser

This probably seems trivial but it is actually causing me quite a lot of discomfort. I spend a lot of my life on the internet, as in at least 12 hours per day. I am in my mid twenties and I don't like office jobs, so I decided to try and get income from home. Even before this though, I spent quite a lot of time online. I had an office job for a year and when I finished work I'd either play video games or go online.

The reason I see it as a problem is because I always feel like I should be out doing something. It is horrific weather to do much though and when it is acceptable outside I'd go for a walk and a coffee now and then. I just feel a bit isolated I guess. I go for drinks at the weekend with my mate usually but most of my weekdays are spent either in the kitchen or sitting room on the net.

I take time out to cook dinner and play guitar but that's about it really. I usually finish up at about 11 and meditate for a bit before sleeping. I feel like if I told anyone else how I lived my life they would describe it as a sad existence with not enough social contact. I feel like, what other twenty something spends most of their life alone? I suffer with a bit of shyness but can easily hold conversations. I just prefer to be on the internet either trying to improve myself in some way or trying to make money. Am I overthinking this?

kjl

doingthings? wrote: »

Am I overthinking this?

Yeah a little bit. The weather isn't particularly great at the moment so keep hibernating for now, but pick up a hobby during the summer. Just something to get you out of the house.

I bought one of those dji drones last year and honestly I went from being inside all the time to actively waiting for good weather to go out and fly it.

woodchuck

There are plenty of ways to get out of the house that aren't weather dependent. Even something as simple as the cinema, but there are always other things on too. Some that spring to mind are comedy events, music gigs, table quizzes, seeing a play (plenty of affordable ones if you go to smaller theatres or book early bird tickets). You could also consider signing up for an evening class in something you're interested in (maybe a cooking class?). There are also always 'meetup' events taking place if you want to interact more directly with other people.

And even if you do stay indoors, there are other ways to occupy your time than the internet (easier said than done though I know!). Even just reading a book or a following a show on tv might be a bit of a break from the norm.

Lux23

Maybe you need to just get out of the house for an hour a day to get a bit of sunlight on your skin. Even with the crappy weather, you can still go for a short walk. So start with a simple goal, take maybe a 30 minute break away from your house for at least 3 days a week and see if you feel any better.

I found when I was out of work that I would feel very socially awkward as I hiding away so much, but even a quick twenty minute walk could make me feel better.