Wording for invitations

sinead81

My parents are paying the hotel bill and we are paying for everything else.... entertainment/dj/cake/flowers etc. what goes on the invite???

Faith

It's totally up to you. You could go with "[Your Name] & [His Name] invite you..." or "Together with their parents, [Your Name] & [His Name] invite you..." or really any other variety. It's whatever you're comfortable with yourself.

sinead81

My parents think that because they are paying for the reception that the wording should be mr and mrs xyz invite you the wedding of their daughter and mr xyz but I think because we are paying for the other half of it that it should be 'together with my parents'

SecretBride

It's your wedding, you choose....

Do you need to have anyone 'inviting' them....

Can it not read
'_______ ' are invited to the wedding of sinead81 and mr sinead81 at blah blah etc?

Faith

If your parents were paying for the whole thing, as they traditionally would have in the past, then I'd go along with them wanting to have their names as the "inviters". But if they're paying 50% or thereabouts, then I personally wouldn't have them first.

Everyone will say: It's your decision. But I know what it's like to be trying to avoid upsetting or offending your parents too. At the end of the day, how much does it matter to you versus how much does it matter to them? Is it worth the fight?

However, another thing to consider is, are you fiance's parents contributing at all? If they are, you can't really say "Mrs and Mrs Bride's Parents invite you..." without offending his parents.

sinead81

Faith wrote: »

If your parents were paying for the whole thing, as they traditionally would have in the past, then I'd go along with them wanting to have their names as the "inviters". But if they're paying 50% or thereabouts, then I personally wouldn't have them first.

Everyone will say: It's your decision. But I know what it's like to be trying to avoid upsetting or offending your parents too. At the end of the day, how much does it matter to you versus how much does it matter to them? Is it worth the fight?

However, another thing to consider is, are you fiance's parents contributing at all? If they are, you can't really say "Mrs and Mrs Bride's Parents invite you..." without offending his parents.

I get that it's 'our day' but our day wouldn't be happening if it wasn't for my parents helping us so I think it's only fair that they are mentioned. His parents are not contributing at all so they won't be offended which makes life easier for us

Faith

sinead81 wrote:

it should be 'together with my parents'

Well, it either has to be "Together with THEIR parents" or "Bride & Groom" IMO. It can't be "Together with Bride's parents, Bride and Groom invite...".

stickybookmark

I was the same my parents paid for the reception and our invites said :
Mr and Mrs X invite you to join in the wedding of their daughter to Y

I saw my parents as hosting the event as such as they were paying for the reception.

sinead81

yes I think I will go with that, because effectively yes they are hosting the whole thing, we are paying for all the extra bits and bobs (photographer/suits/flowers etc)