Finding A Boyfriend...

jamie124

Hi There,
So I am 17 ( I know a bit young to be talking about this but I do think about it a lot and I have barely anyone to talk to about this)
I'm Gay - And I am starting to think about my future and what I want in it... Who knows what the future will bring? - Okay but I still think about it....

I am in 6th Year (Final Year) Of Secondary School - I am trying my best with my studies and have thought about college , or further education (If I don't get the points I want/need) etc...
Question is, Will I EVER have a boyfriend in my life? Where am I likely to meet them? - College? Working Life? Gay Bars?...

I am just worried and not everyone in my life knows about me being gay except my closest relatives... I really would LOVE to come out like right NOW but I don't want to rush things.

Thank you all in advance x.

P.S. THE TITLE IS MEANT TO SAY "FINDING" NOT FINING!!

Mr. G

jamie124 wrote: »

Hi There,
So I am 17 ( I know a bit young to be talking about this but I do think about it a lot and I have barely anyone to talk to about this)
I'm Gay - And I am starting to think about my future and what I want in it... Who knows what the future will bring? - Okay but I still think about it....

I am in 6th Year (Final Year) Of Secondary School - I am trying my best with my studies and have thought about college , or further education (If I don't get the points I want/need) etc...
Question is, Will I EVER have a boyfriend in my life? Where am I likely to meet them? - College? Working Life? Gay Bars?...

I am just worried and not everyone in my life knows about me being gay except my closest relatives... I really would LOVE to come out like right NOW but I don't want to rush things.

Thank you all in advance x.

P.S. THE TITLE IS MEANT TO SAY "FINDING" NOT FINING!!

Hi Jamie

My advice: Take your time and do it on your own pace. You'll meet boyfriends anywhere, it really gets better when you finish school. Things are probably really busy right now.

I found college to be easiest to get to know yourself a lot better as its more open. Dating websites and apps (Tinder, Grindr etc), Gay bars, regular bars, college, work etc all walks of life you can meet people.

I've noticed even at work as you get older it gets a lot easier to meet other guys. College has helped a lot with that I will say in my situation (but if you don't go to college, there are other ways!). There is an LGBT Society in most colleges, which is great.

There's also the likes of BeLongTo and those community groups. I've never gone bit there is that.

Hope this helps

baby and crumble

I could have written your post when I was 17, op- well, it would've been a girlfriend I was looking for but that's about it!

Honestly, don't rush things. I met my gf in a college society (not LGBT as it happens) and 12 years later we just celebrated our first Christmas in our new house. Really, don't stress. It'll happen. Just go to places you want to go to and do things you want to do. That way you'll meet someone with similar interests and hobbies, as opposed to someone who may only share "being gay" with you. Do you know what I mean?

jamie124

Thanks for the replies everyone! x
Also, Coming out has been playing on my mind like CONSTANTLY and I can't let it go , I have been holding in my sexuality to some people since the age of 13! - I just don't think I can do it anymore! - Any advice?
Thanks x.

Ten of Swords

Have you told any of your friends yet or are you worried about reactions? Your parents know which is great, you must have felt great relief after telling them, but if you want to ease some of the pressure you are feeling you should consider telling your closest friend(s).

jamie124

Ten of Swords wrote: »

Have you told any of your friends yet or are you worried about reactions? Your parents know which is great, you must have felt great relief after telling them, but if you want to ease some of the pressure you are feeling you should consider telling your closest friend(s).

Honestly, No I haven't and I'm not too sure if i should tell them in a school environment either , I do know that they don't hold anything against gay people whenever we talk about them so that's a positive I suppose , I'm just really worried I guess.. And yes I had great relief telling my parents , they just accepted it.. I also don't come from a very homophobic family e.g. - my auntie took part in the marriage referendum BeLongTo ad in May but still I'm really worried and don't know why it's strange!
Thanks x.

LegacyUser

I'm in a similar situation, I'm 16 and I know I'm at least bisexual, not sure if I'm fully gay just yet. I've only came out to a few of my friends so far and don't really wanna come out as of yet but at the same time I do to make life easier.

Finding someone to be in a gay relationship is a lot harder compared to a straight relationship. I have had strong enough feelings for two people to tell them but both didn't work out.

I'm not really sure about meeting people online to be honest, a lot of people just want sex and not an actual relationship that I'm looking for. Not to mention all the 60 year old weirdos that are out there online too.