Constantly stuck in a rut

LegacyUser

I feel like I've been in a funk for the best part of the last 3 years.
I graduated college deliriously happy, great set of friend, nice boyfriend, good prospects. I'd had my ups and down over the four years studying and was glad to be done but I was happy.
Shortly after graduating I moved abroad. This had been something I had planned for a long time. I originally wanted to move more or less permanently but my boyfriend couldn't come/didn't want to so after a year of long distance I decided to relocate to England as he had said he would move here. However, while I was home for a few weeks before heading to England he said he never seriously considered moving and we broke up.

Fine. So I went to England anyway as it was also a career move. I made some good friends there but all in all it was a pretty awful year. At the end of it, despite being in an in demand field, I couldn't find work in the city I was in and ended up in London. I've been here 4 months now and I'm still very unhappy. I have two friends here, one from when I leaved elsewhere and one from home. I see them, maybe once a month each. I knew they had lives here and weren't just going to drop everything for me but I thought we were closer than this.

I'm coming to terms with the fact I don't like my job very much but I do like my workplace which is a shame because my contract is only temporary and I'll be unemployed again come June. My landlord asked me to leave as I'm too messy so I'm in the midst of an unexpected move. I'm single. I've joined a couple of clubs and go to meet up groups but haven't made any friends so spend most of my free time exploring the city alone or trawling internet dating sites for someone to talk to. I'm not even looking forward to going home for Christmas because I only have a handful of friend who bother to meet me and even then it's me trekking and hour and half up to Dublin so that they can squeeze me in for half an hour before they go hangout with people they actually care about.

I feel like I have nothing going for me at the moment. It would be fine to have a **** social life if was doing great at work and fullfilling myself, or vise versa.
I don't want to stay in England for the long haul but I can't handle the thought of moving again. There is nothing for me here but then there's certainly nothing for me at home any longer. Do I just move abroad again and hope I can find a "home" there?

pgj2015

why do you think there is nothing for you here in Ireland op? is there job prospects for you here in Ireland? you would be surprised how much things have improved jobs wise here in the last year. I think if I was you I would come home at Christmas and don't go back to the Uk, have a look for a job in Ireland for a while. Then if you get a job here, you can make new friends, Its much easier make friends in Ireland than the UK, they are not as friendly as Irish people.

magicmushroom

OP are you feeling homesick for Ireland at all?
If you're not then I wouldn't come back for good. You may feel just as miserable here and like you've taken a step back.

Were you happy in the first place you were when you were abroad?
Were there good job prospects there, did you make friends?

I ask as I wonder if you would be happier going back there again.

I know you said you don't want another big move but in the grand scheme of things, moving one more time could result in your happiness.
Better to have one up more upheaval now, instead of staying put just to remain unhappy.

Dughorm

If you want to be definitely unhappy keep doing what you are doing! How about making a change and potentially being happy?

New job? New location? New hobby? Try one or all of the above and if that doesn't work try another. You are free and single OP tis only yourself you've to worry about make the most of this time u could be married with kids in 5 years and these decisions will be made for you!