Am I gay?

junction12

I'm going to keep this short as possible.
Basically I'm a guy in my mid twenties.
I'm fairly sure I'm gay but I've an issue.
Growing up I never really felt attracted to girls and it never really entered my head that I was gay. Until one day I noticed a guy(was a teacher actually) and just felt attracted to guys every since. I tried it with girls but I just never got that spark.
My main issues are I don't really connect with other gay guys. Generally we're polar opposites. I've told people I'm gay/bi and I've be told that they didn't think I was because I don't fit the stereotype. I'd get over this tough I know I might not have lots of gay friends but I'd probably met somebody.
My main issue is the whilst I singer turned on by guys the taught of actually having anal see with them almost repulses me.
So am I gay?

MarkAnthony

Sexuality is not a binary. You're you. Be happy with that and enjoy what, and who, you enjoy.

Atlantic Dawn

Watch some straight and some gay porn, see which one wets your whistle most so to speak.

MarkAnthony

Atlantic Dawn wrote: »

Watch some straight and some gay porn, see which one wets your whistle most so to speak.

The amount of people who wouldn't be traditionally 'straight' that get off on aspects of 'straight' porn is staggering. Why the hell else would 15 guys on one woman be so popular. You can't tell me the person watching that is 100% straight :pac:

gwjones42

Don't let stereotypes about how gay or straight people "should" behave cloud your judgement........

There's a million ways to live your life as man and they're all equally "manly" once you take ownership and acceptance over your own particular style.......... and you might also happen to be gay too! Personally I find confidence in a guy to be one of the most attractive (and manly) qualities he can have...gay or straight!

If the thought of being with a guy excites you and you can't visualise yourself being with a girl then the chances are very heavily in favour of you being gay.....and what harm??

baby and crumble

I'd agree with the last poster- stereotypes man nothing. Just because you don't fit the gay man stereotype, it doesn't mean you're straight.

Also, many gay men don't like anal sex, and don't practice it. So that's not a big deal TBH.

J_E

Not all people practice anal sex. There are many, many ways to get off with someone that doesn't involve that at all. Has nothing to do with sexuality.

qweerty

At the start, I found the thought of anal really unappealing, and would never have even considered receiving. Well, let's just say things have changed

flunkyfearsome

junction12 wrote: »

I'm going to keep this short as possible.
Basically I'm a guy in my mid twenties.
I'm fairly sure I'm gay but I've an issue.
Growing up I never really felt attracted to girls and it never really entered my head that I was gay. Until one day I noticed a guy(was a teacher actually) and just felt attracted to guys every since. I tried it with girls but I just never got that spark.
My main issues are I don't really connect with other gay guys. Generally we're polar opposites. I've told people I'm gay/bi and I've be told that they didn't think I was because I don't fit the stereotype. I'd get over this tough I know I might not have lots of gay friends but I'd probably met somebody.
My main issue is the whilst I singer turned on by guys the taught of actually having anal see with them almost repulses me.
So am I gay?

Being gay isn't just about the act, plenty of people don't have anal sex, it doesn't make them any less gay, what's your take on oral ?