I want to write this out because my head is all messed up..

LegacyUser

I've been feeling increasingly low the last few weeks. I've suffered from depression before and am still attending cbt. I was on tablets before but came off them because I was feeling good at the start of the year, and have been feeling good throughout the year but these last few weeks. I can't really recall how it started but some of it has to do with my self esteem, some of it has to do with my ex and some of it has to do with my friends.

I am overweight but I have lost around 18lbs this year. I am quite happy with it but I seem to have plateaued and it's getting me down. Two of my friends have joined gyms, are toning up and look amazing. They were slim to start with. I just feel I'll never get there. I'm a single mum and am exhausted at the end of every day so the thought of going out to do weights just makes me want to get Ito bed. I know exercise releases endorphins and I have been exercising but not enough. It's a vicious circle and I just go to food then.

My "best friend" will ignore my texts a lot. I had this problem before with her, and it was something that I talked about a lot with my therapist. I know that everyone is busy, and I am the same marks, so it annoys me that I get bothered by it. I try to think of the advice that you ant change a person, just change how you deal with them., but I don't know how.

I am feeling increasingly lonely too as y friends are all pairing off, getting engaged and I don't have any relationship. I know I know -sighing because I know all of this - that I have my whole life ahead of me, that I have my daughter and family, but I just want someone to look after me. To support me.

I know what I have to do, and I know some people will just say go do it, but I can't seem to get out of this funk and move on..

Mr. Incognito

Might just be the weather and the darker evenings, could also be the tablets.

1. Get yourself assessed by your g.p.

2. You need to set short term goals. Everyone gets down. Its a part of life and it will turn around. You will appreciate the success when it comes.

3. When it comes to diet and exercise the trick is to start small. Just a short walk, and lay off a particular treat or ration it.

4. Keep a diary, or take pictures and track your progress.

5. Realise that as you get fit the first thing that happens is you burn fat and gain muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat so avoid all scales for the first six months. A weight gain is not unusual.

6. Cardio is good. Lifting weights are better. Together is best. I recommend 5x5. Five reps five times at 80% of what you can lift. I transformed my body in six months doing that. It was shocking to me.

7. Once again. Goals. Start small. Write them down. Tick them off. Set new ones. You might fail but persevere. It will get easier. Most people try to do to much, too fast and chuck it in after a few weeks.

8. Friends will come and go. Focus on you and your daughter for now.

8. Come back and keep us updated. I wish you every success.

via4

Sounds like me I feel you honey!! so much similarity there esp the friend situation the ignoring your texts and calls. That used to cut me up and I wasted so many evenings annoyed with people that I know deep down really couldnt give a sht about me! I spent and still do spend a lot of time on my own but I have learned to not place so much weight on friendships anymore. My attitude now is if they want me they can ring me invite me etc. I no longer give people the option to let me down if I try what I did in the past and try and get up and get out and about invite them places etc. I literally just do my own thing now and I honestly feel so much happier and this is not just a mask of happiness. I always find with this certain group of "friends" if I bump into them and I am busy going out with other people they will invite me out but in the past when I said I was down and lonely they would just go out and not invite me its weird. It is so hard to get up and get down to the gym but you feel so much better when you do. In my own situation with this bitchy group I find that we have different interests they love going out and getting drunk and im so past all that. They cannot understand this but thankfully I have met a nice girl in the gym that is in the same mindset as me being healthy etc. So maybe you have matured too much for those friends they sound like no the best people if they ignore your texts so my advice would be to stop texting you will hear from them eventually. In the meantime dont be so hard on yourself like go down to the gym and just take it easy for a while do not wreck yourself too much its meant to be fun

December2012

Have you looked into joining meetup or girlcrew? Do you want to start dating again?