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Need advice regarding my mum

  • 22-11-2015 9:51pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I don't know if my mam is happy. She is definitely unhappy with her weight. Every week it's the start of a new diet and every week it ends in her having binge drinking sessions with her husband. They go out every Sunday and come home completely hammered. They would then go most Saturday's and sometimes adding in Friday too. Each time, they both come home pissed. This leads to arguments between them, my mum crying that no one loves her and then her falling asleep crying.

    I have tried to set an example of eating healthy as I'm on my own weight loss journey, but I know that you can only do it when you're ready yourself. However, I can see how frustrated she is with herself.

    I hate when she comes home drunk because I know how her behaviour changes - emotional as I mentioned above, which I do understand is heightened by the alcohol.

    I have tried to say it to her about starting to et healthier, I have said in a jokey way that if she didn't start the week hungover that it might result in a better week but she said that she isn't hungover.

    She has self esteem issues definitely from her feelings that her own mother doesn't love her as much as her siblings.

    I don't know what to do. I know that it's normal to go out for the few drinks hut the amount just worries me. I don't even dink that much and I'm 26. My dad said that she never drank as much as now when they were together.

    I'd love some advice, my brother doesn't live at home so feel I am alone in this situation.

    Thanks


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  • #2
    Rubberchikken
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,095 ✭✭✭Rubberchikken


    could you get her alone and in a calm way tell her that you're worried. not about her weight, but about the effect her socialising is having on her.
    is her husband a person you, or someone you trust, could talk to as well?
    it has to be very hard to see your mom behaving like this. she's obviously unhappy and the alcohol isn't going to help. does she have any siblings that could talk to her, maybe see if she'd talk with her gp?
    don't feel you have to handle this alone. talk to your dad and see ifhe can help in any way. good luck


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