My girlfriend of two years, kissed another bloke

heartofgold200

My girlfriend confessed that she kissed back another man on lips in a nightclub,she said honest drunken mistake and she said she won't do it again and she won't drink,she cried her eyes out and asked for another chance,Iam stunned I don't know what to do she promises changes but Iam getting mixed feelings, any tips or advice?

Mr. Incognito

Was she spotted and did she go home "alone" or with friends.

Spontaneous confessions are rare

heartofgold200

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Was she spotted and did she go home "alone" or with friends.

Spontaneous confessions are rare

She went to the nightclub with friends and she says she left for home with friends,I just need advice if I should give her a chance,she's made a load of promises.

discus

There is strong potential that she is trickle truthing you here - more may have happened. Think about it, it takes more than a few minutes of face to face conversation and flirting before a girl and a guy kiss. So why did she let it get to that point? And what was the true end point of their evening?

There are plenty of girls out there who won't do this to you. Drop her mate, even if you were 30 I'd say drop her and move on, but I reckon you are younger, and have even more reason to wait out for a better, more loyal girl.

She went to the nightclub with friends and she says she left for home with friends,I just need advice if I should give her a chance,she's made a load of promises.

Doesn't count for jack shiyte.

heartofgold200

discus wrote: »

There is strong potential that she is trickle truthing you here - more may have happened. Think about it, it takes more than a few minutes of face to face conversation and flirting before a girl and a guy kiss. So why did she let it get to that point? And what was the true end point of their evening?

There are plenty of girls out there who won't do this to you. Drop her mate, even if you were 30 I'd say drop her and move on, but I reckon you are younger, and have even more reason to wait out for a better, more loyal girl.



Doesn't count for jack shiyte.

She says he just came over said how are you said his name and they kissed seem strange.

discus

heartofgold200 wrote: »

She says he just came over said how are you said his name and they kissed seem strange.

Why are you even asking us, you know yourself it's a load of crap.

DopeTech

heartofgold200 wrote: »

She says he just came over said how are you said his name and they kissed seem strange.

Sounds a bit suss. You know her better than we do, if you think you have a relationship worth saving I would give her another chance. If you think she may be only telling you half the story then walk away.

jimmycrackcorm

People are human and make mistakes. As it stands there's not a lot more to go on than what your OH has told you.

In the absence of any further information, I'd apply the law of once bitten, twice shy.

heartofgold200

FrostyJim wrote: »

Sounds a bit suss. You know her better than we do, if you think you have a relationship worth saving I would give her another chance. If you think she may be only telling you half the story then walk away.

This is his girlfriend and fiancée were engaged since Christmas last year and people make mistakes everyone isn't perfect I made a horrible disgusting thing to do but I am truly very sorry and will stop all drinking all together honestly I love this man with all my heart and am trying to make up for my mistake life is too short to give up fighting and just hope that we can get past this coz we are so much stronger than everyone thinks

Xterminator

OP why wouldnt you believe your OH's story?

Do you have reason to distrust her? is there any history of cheating etc? Is there any alcohol problems?

I dont imagine you would be happy your partner had a drunken snog, with a stranger, but on the scale if misdemeanors it seems pretty minor. I mean there was no preplan, no emotional cheating, simply a couple of seconds of impulsive behavior when drunk.

unless there is more to it, i tell her you expect her to cut back on the drink when out with friends, and then make up. Thats me.

evolving_doors

heartofgold200 wrote: »

This is his girlfriend and fiancée were engaged since Christmas last year and people make mistakes everyone isn't perfect I made a horrible disgusting thing to do but I am truly very sorry and will stop all drinking all together honestly I love this man with all my heart and am trying to make up for my mistake life is too short to give up fighting and just hope that we can get past this coz we are so much stronger than everyone thinks

Whatsgoing on here? is this a text from your moth OP.. or is she replying to this thread or wha?
confused

heartofgold200

Gebgbegb wrote: »

Whatsgoing on here? is this a text from your moth OP.. or is she replying to this thread or wha?
confused

Yeah it was my fiancée, she just wanted to speak the truth.

heartofgold200

Alright yeah big deal like I did nothing wrong just asking for some friendly advice.

Dughorm

heartofgold200 wrote: »

Alright yeah big deal like I did nothing wrong just asking for some friendly advice.

Is it you or your fiancée looking for the advice?

heartofgold200

Dughorm wrote: »

Is it you or your fiancée looking for the advice?

Only me, but my fiancée wanted her say for which i granted and don't mine everyone is entitled to their opinion.

Saipanne

I wouldn't forgive her. Sorry love.

Dughorm

heartofgold200 wrote: »

Only me, but my fiancée wanted her say for which i granted and don't mine everyone is entitled to their opinion.

So yourself and your fiancée both are sitting at a computer, throwing open your relationship to a bunch of internet strangers to pass judgement?

Either ye are cracked (and hence perfect for each other) or this is a complete set-up!

Disgruntled Badger

Hmm. You love her...she loves you...stay together I say but talk more abt what's going on in your heads. When someone cheats, in whatever form, they are making up for what's missing. Maybe you need a little more excitement in your lives...bit of wild sh1t is always a good idea 😉

dudara

I've deleted a host of off-topic posts, which were adding nothing to the conversation. If you have an issue with a post, please use the Report Post function, rather than posting on thread.

OP - you and your fianceé need to talk together, not in front of strangers from the internet. Therefore, I am closing this thread.

dudara