Should I give him a chance?

shaddyyladdyy

BackStory: Me and this guy were shifting when we both in fifth year and part of second year in secondary school and we particularly were scoring every night that we both out and were very drunk. Even one night when we were shifting he told me that he liked me and i just brushed it off as if it was nothing. Then he didn't talk/contact me for months (in saying that we barely talked it was mainly shifting in the local nightclub). He acted pure shady. (Bear with me with the story)

Since we have both come to college there has been little/no contact. He started doing drugs and mixing with the wrong crowd. We both go to different colleges so that understandable too.There was time last year he came to dublin, and i bumped into him out and we didn't shift but he persisted to come home with me and i was having none of it. Because i haven't had sex or anything along those lines.

So anyways, bumped into him last Thursday night in diceys and we both exchanged the "hi and hello" and everything was grand. He texted me after asking where i was and i had gone home at that stage. So i wasn't bothered in the first place, he was working at home at the weekend so he said he would pick me up after work. honestly thinking nothing of it, he texted me the next night asking for a drive and i said no cause i'm not ready for what he is thinking? then he said Saturday i was like no again so he didnt text back! Then sunday night i receive a message from him on facebook asking for my number ? But since then there has been no text. i'm just very confused in what to do ? if he asks again should i meet up ?

Dee01

Do you like him?

shaddyyladdyy

Am i do kinda like him, i haven't stopped thinking about him since Thursday night. Like i don't know whether he likes me back or if he is just playing me. Also all of my friends hate him so i couldnt tell any of them that i liked him. But i did like him in the past, but i feel he could be just using me again..

ElleEm

You shouldn't have that amount of doubts, what ifs and buts before you even go out with him. Life is easier than that!

shaddyyladdyy

Yeah i know. i just don't know what do cause i want something with him but i feel like he just wants a **** buddy at the weekend :P

Exclamation Marc

You mentioned that he's started doing drugs and mixing with a bad crowd. Do either or both of these bother you?

Also if you need convincing, it's usually a sign to walk the other way

shaddyyladdyy

Well there was all rumours that he was doing it, but i actually don't know if he did them tbh. But i was talking to one of he's friends and he said that ".." was clean and that he hadn't done it for ages! yeah he's friends are bunch of as****** towards me

Exclamation Marc

shaddyyladdyy wrote: »

Well there was all rumours that he was doing it, but i actually don't know if he did them tbh. But i was talking to one of he's friends and he said that ".." was clean and that he hadn't done it for ages! yeah he's friends are bunch of as****** towards me

I assume you're in secondary school from your first post. If his friends are awful towards you and your friends hate him, given the nature of school life, is it ever going to work or be worth it seeing as it'll only ever work when your alone and neither of you get on with each others friends?

Also it sounds like he's interested in keeping it very casual if he's not following up on anything.

I'd cut him loose if it was me.

shaddyyladdyy

Yeah we were in secondary school then. Yeah what you are saying is making up a lot of sense :P Just in denial about the whole situation tbh.
Infairness he was mad keen at the weekend and I shot him down but there has been no messages since sunday night late. so maybe he's playing it cool or waiting for next weekend so when we are both home. So that he can get his fix..
Yeah i'm leaning towards just leaving it if he texts at the weekend

cee_jay

shaddyyladdyy wrote: »

Am i do kinda like him, i haven't stopped thinking about him since Thursday night. Like i don't know whether he likes me back or if he is just playing me. Also all of my friends hate him so i couldnt tell any of them that i liked him. But i did like him in the past, but i feel he could be just using me again..

How is he using you?
You need to decide for yourself if you like him or not. Not who's friends like who.

shaddyyladdyy

As in he will only text me when he sees me drunk and then wants to meet up! he never texts sober hardly! Just waiting for the text at the weekend from him for a booty call

tea and coffee

Sounds like you have him pegged correctly. Only texts you when he's drunk, was nasty to you before when you kissed. Doesn't sound like good boyfriend material

Penny Tration

I wouldn't say he's using you, because you seem to only text when he texts you. Do you text him when youre sober just to chat? If you don't do it either, you can't really accuse him of using you!

That said, he doesn't sound like boyfriend material. his mates hate you, he only texts when drunk, he doesn't seem to want to see you sober. Time to ignore the late night texts and forget about him

mattP

shaddyyladdyy wrote:

Am i do kinda like him, i haven't stopped thinking about him since Thursday night. Like i don't know whether he likes me back or if he is just playing me. Also all of my friends hate him so i couldnt tell any of them that i liked him. But i did like him in the past, but i feel he could be just using me again..

Ahem using you?
He said he had feelings for you and you carried on like it was nothing...

Mr. Incognito

If he doesn't text during the day forget it. You can do better.

Churpy

Cut all contact with this guy. From what you've said you don't come across as tho your interested in just a casual thing. That's ALL this guy is looking for. SEX and nothing more. If a guy likes you they will chase you and put in max effort. This guy texts you whenever he feels like it(usually boozed up) because he wants sex and nothing else. If it's a boyfriend your looking for stay away from this guy. If you sleep with him don't kid yourself that he will start to develop feelings for you, if he was interested in wanting you as a gf he would put every effort in to impress you. This guy barely bothers his arse to text you......unless he's boozed up and frisky. He's definitely the type that's gunna do the hump and dump. Save your time for a guy whose willing to give you the attention you deserve