Did you lose your value for materialistic things as you got older

dollyk

Im 51 now, and cant believe what was important to me for years.
For example, I always needed to keep a clean house even with 6 young kids.
My car now is not important once it gets me from A to B.
Its not so important that everything matches in the house.
I also have my last child who is the same age as my grandchild,
and I spend so much more time with her, instead of working
long hours to make sure she has the latest fashion/gadgets.
Does this happen to everyone ? or maybe its just menopause :eek:

whatismyname

Personally it hasn't happened to me as these things were never important to me.

dollyk

whatismyname wrote: »

Personally it hasn't happened to me as these things were never important to me.

Yes I only thought they were, like trying to keep up with the jones.
Took me years but Ive learnt the hard way .

whatismyname

dollyk wrote: »

Yes I only thought they were, like trying to keep up with the jones.
Took me years but Ive learnt the hard way .

Ah don't get me wrong,I'm sure it's fairly common.

SCOOP 64

Dont know ,but i think getting older you just start to have a lack of interest in everything.

elperello

Yes OP it happens when you go with the flow anscan be quite liberating.

Enjoy it and when you get a chance listen to this from Tom T Hall. Then read the comments.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-FU_TuwM2Dw

Spanish Eyes

Sounds like a soundbyte, but honestly, people, family and friends will give you a lot more than material things will.

Anyway, we all want nice things, and then they are left behind when we croak. Who notices or cares what you have? TBH many will be envious and ignore it anyway.

So no, I am not materialistic at all. Just give me a quiet day, a meeting with friends for a meal, and I'm happy. And once my bills are paid I'm VERY happy.

It's all advertising doh. Don't get sucked in.

suicide_circus

Things can be nice but not "important".

Important is your loved ones, your health and the environment.

riclad

You stop trying to keep with with new music,
you stop trying to be cool .
People say mr to you if you are male.
You become invisible to young people of the opposite sex.
You realise that material things are not that important.
You are happy with clothes that are comfortable,
fashion does not matter at all.
The important thing is pay your bills, and be healthy .

NIMAN

Definitely.

anto9

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

Dont know ,but i think getting older you just start to have a lack of interest in everything.

Not true in my case at least .Your interests do change of course though.

blinding

Well you have put me off robbing the bank

It just ain't worth it unless you get a kick out of frightening bank staff;)

Plek Trum

Totally - providing a happy and secure home for my family and spending quality time and giving the best of myself to my partner and child have become my priority (and I'm just gone 38!)

I no longer feel the need for the latest gadgets, fancy weekends away, buying the latest 'must have' etc. Paying my bills, making sure my partner and baby are happy and things are good with friends and family are what matters. Christmas used to be my BIG event in terms of buying for others and receiving things - now I would much rather spend the time WITH people, give a donation to the local collection (Be it a present for another child or buying a few raffle prizes for the old folks home etc).

Agricola

The only material things that matter to me like that would be my computer and car and in both cases its not about having new ones for the sake of impressing anyone, its simply a matter of having access to new features, faster processing, or quality and reliability in the case of the car. Everything else from clothes to phones to household items, I make do with the minimum requirement.
I went through a phase as a teenager of having to have certain labels on my clothes and it makes it cringe thinking back on it now.

paulbok

Thanks to Radiohead and a fake Stephen Hawkins
"Fitter Happier"

more productive
comfortable
not drinking too much
regular exercise at the gym (3 days a week)
getting on better with your associate employee contemporaries
at ease
eating well (no more microwave dinners and saturated fats)
a patient better driver
a safer car (baby smiling in back seat)
sleeping well (no bad dreams)
no paranoia
careful to all animals (never washing spiders down the plughole)
keep in contact with old friends (enjoy a drink now and then)
will frequently check credit at (moral) bank (hole in wall)
favours for favours
fond but not in love
charity standing orders
on sundays ring road supermarket
(no killing moths or putting boiling water on the ants)
car wash (also on sundays)
no longer afraid of the dark
or midday shadows
nothing so ridiculously teenage and desperate
nothing so childish
at a better pace
slower and more calculated
no chance of escape
now self-employed
concerned (but powerless)
an empowered and informed member of society (pragmatism not idealism)
will not cry in public
less chance of illness
tires that grip in the wet (shot of baby strapped in back seat)
a good memory
still cries at a good film
still kisses with saliva
no longer empty and frantic
like a cat
tied to a stick
that's driven into
frozen winter sh1t (the ability to laugh at weakness)
calm
fitter, healthier and more productive
a pig
in a cage
on antibiotics

hatrickpatrick

I'm only 26 and I already sound like an 'auld fella As I said in the other thread, I can't think of anything I want for Christmas this year, unless someone can arrange that all my friends who've emigrated decide to move back home.

Absolutely I don't know how it happens but as you get older you care about having stuff less and less.

blinding

mariaalice wrote: »

Absolutely I don't know how it happens but as you get older you care about having stuff less and less.

There is only so much stuff you can get in that timber box and you would have to be kinda silly with all that goes on around you not to get to know that one day you will have a nice not overly spacious box of your own:D

Now lets have a little giggle at the next lad/lassie that pulls some not so nice stroke to make a few cents. Its even funnier when its some old codger that does it.

A story about an acquaintance of ours notorious for pulling "mean" strokes.

He did one over some Turf (for the fire) and anyways some time later when the guy(mean stroke puller) was on his death bed it was remarked by some that he would not be needing Turf where he was going:)

_Kaiser_

No I haven't lost it, but as I've gotten older so too have the demands on my income and time increased and so I can't always afford everything I'd like to have/do myself and so there's no point worrying about it.

jimgoose

I was never particularly materialistic. There are a handful of material possessions that are of value to me, not because any of them are worth much. I don't expect that to change.

biko

I'll let you know once I get old.

brevity

I still want stuff that might be considered material but I'm aware that it's not going to make me happy. Not that I'm particularly miserable at the moment.

flanzer

Totally agree with you. The only thing I can't do without is a holiday. I think it's good for the mind to get away. I think it's also good for my daughter to sample different environments. I doesn't have to be far, and it doesn't have to be for long.

I happy I've a roof over my head, even though it's no mansion and may need a lick of paint and the carpets cleaned. I'm happy that I've a car that gets me from A to B, although it's no BMW or Merc

Permabear

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jester77

Depends on how you define materialistic. I work daily with technologies that are always evolving. I like having the latest phone and I am a bit of a gadget geek. I'm not sure if that makes me materialistic, if I woke up tomorrow and I didn't have these things then it wouldn't be too big a deal. I can afford these things without having any sort of a negative effect on how I live or how my family lives. If I wasn't able to afford them then I wouldn't buy them.

But I know people who will take out a loan for a car or even a laptop and buy things like phones on credit. That to me is how I would define materialistic, if you can't afford it then you shouldn't be getting into debt just to fulfil some wishful desire.

511

dollyk wrote: »

Im 51 now, and cant believe what was important to me for years.
For example, I always needed to keep a clean house even with 6 young kids.
My car now is not important once it gets me from A to B.
Its not so important that everything matches in the house.
I also have my last child who is the same age as my grandchild,
and I spend so much more time with her, instead of working
long hours to make sure she has the latest fashion/gadgets.
Does this happen to everyone ? or maybe its just menopause :eek:

Looks like your interest in poetry is still strong.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

Yes and no. I certainly don't keep up with the Jones' but still like the house clean and tidy probably more than when we were raising our family.
The car is important to me and is changed for a new one every 2 years.
Generally I prefer the simpler things in life.

ScumLord

Absolutely. Although I will spend much more money on the few things I do buy now, I've bought enough cheap shyte to know it's not worth buying.

I also realise popular culture is a stupid waste of time. Why spend any time trying to learn popular culture or fashion when it's all going to be forgotten 12 months later? It's just in one ear, rattle around the brain, and out the other ear, forgotten until someone shows you a photo ten years later and everyone laughs at how ridiculous everyone was back in the day. Far to much of modern society is taken up with, forgettable nonsense.