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Sex in a new relationship.........

  • 04-11-2015 6:19pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all a while ago a relationship with a long term partner of over 13 years ended. Just recently I have started a new one and the sex thing is kinda of driving me batty. I am concerned that i may not be good enough in that department and want to be considerate to her needs. I just cant really judge if she is really enjoying it.

    We only get to be intimate that way kind of at weekends or every second weekend as I would have the kids and she has kids and distance apart etc but when we do meet we really go hell for leather.......well hell for leather for my age (40's) haha maybe 3/4 times a night. I get the impression she does not like to receive oral sex but no problem performing it so thats out and I am also concerned that I may be a bit premature. It has been a while since I have been with a woman and especially one so sexually liberated.

    While we meet irregularly we do talk and laugh every single day. I do really like her and while it is early on would hope that it might workout


    Is it just paranoia? can you ever really tell? and advice on the premature thing?

    Ps I should also mention the previous one broke up due to sexual issues. Such as her not wanting sex or not want to try anything different.


Comments

  • #2
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    That's quite odd. It's normally pretty obvious when a sexual partner is really enjoying it. Is she just really quiet or unresponsive? Is it that she is not reaching orgasm with you? I'm a bit confused because you say she's really sexually liberated which to my mind equates to enjoyment.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    No she seems to enjoy it and in fairness initiates it most of the time. I would definitely say she has not orgasmed though I suppose it may be difficult for me to tell as I would clearly know when my previous partner would of and my new one may not be as obvious?

    A small problem is stopping to put on a condom which is a bit of a dampner so to speak


  • #4
    suicide_circus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,802 ✭✭✭✭suicide_circus


    The condom thing can be solved by getting her to put it on you ;)


  • #5
    R.D. aka MR.D
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,643 ✭✭✭R.D. aka MR.D


    Just talk to her about it. Ask her if there is anything she would like you do. Ask her if she enjoys oral sex.


  • #6
    CiboC
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 547 ✭✭✭CiboC


    Just ask her!

    Don't be afraid to talk about sex, say what you enjoy, ask her what she enjoys - you don't have to try to guess or get an impression about anything.

    It's a new relationship you don't have to carry the baggage of the old one with you in it.


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