differences in a relationship

LegacyUser

I recently started seeing a guy who is quite different from me. In many ways, arguably more important ways, we are very similar too (values, politics to a degree and small day to day things like the same type of music, food etc.). He is also sweet, funny, and handsome.
But they things that are different about him worry me slightly. For example we both have similar political views. I try to include small things in my daily life to support/show this and feel guilty about not doing more, whereas he will do something only when it's easy for him. Not in a mean way, he just doesn't think it's important or helpful.

The main difference between the two of us is that he is very materialistic. I don't mean he has any sort of unhealthy attachment to things but where as I doubt I'll own a car till I have kids he has more or less the best car he can afford. He spends a lot of money on clothes and won't use anything even a tiny bit worn out where as I will wear something until it's no longer usable (unless it's for work). That's just a snapshot.

The fact that this is what he enjoys isn't the problem so much (it's his money, he can spend it as he pleases) but it's the fact that I worry so much about it. I just worry it'll get to the point where he thinks of me as a smelly hippy and I think of him as a greedy capitalist. Or if we ended up together long term then one of us would look back and realise we've had to compromise too much.

CaraMay

That's incredibly over analytical. Are uou looking to meet your clone? Have you had this issue in previous relationships as there's definite overthinking here.

Ursus Horribilis

I think if the pair of you get together long term you both need to have some edges knocked off. It's not just your outlooks on money that's so different. You both view life differently. I could see him getting on your nerves if you don't accept him for who he is. In different ways, both of you are high maintenance.

It's also worth pointing out that money is one of the main reasons why marriages fail. I could see you falling out very badly over money. Even the way you describe him is a little disparaging. Something worth bearing in mind.

Sunflower 27

The problem isn't him, its how you view yourself in comparison to him. Why would you be smelly? Less a person because you don't wear labels or whatever?

From your description, he sounds like a decent bloke that likes the finer things in life. I'd stop analysing it all. He is not with you for what you wear. Be your own person. It would be a very boring rationship if you were exactly the same.