Reacting vs Responding

Robsweezie

in everyday situations, are you the type to react or respond? if someone did something really bad on you, would you leave them an abusive voicemail/text or just accept they're no good and move on?

someone's trying to start a row with you, do you rise to it and lose the run of yourself or refuse to even entertain the whole thing?

when im pissed off ive been known to slam doors the odd time, storm out instead of staying and talking things through properly. im the type who wont start shouting, i'll just walk out. so im not the perfect ''response' type. its too easy to just snap and act on emotion.

Gatling

Sit back and smile works every time ,
Works even better on here actually when you see the desperate measures trolls go to just to get bit of attention

KingBrian2

I've been known to overreact at times, have to keep my emotions in check. Hassle, frustration and abuse best to ignore and walk away then jumping into an awful outrage.

miss tickle

Robsweezie wrote: »

in everyday situations, are you the type to react or respond? if someone did something really bad on you, would you leave them an abusive voicemail/text or just accept they're no good and move on?

someone's trying to start a row with you, do you rise to it and lose the run of yourself or refuse to even entertain the whole thing?

when im pissed off ive been known to slam doors the odd time, storm out instead of staying and talking things through properly. im the type who wont start shouting, i'll just walk out. so im not the perfect ''response' type. its too easy to just snap and act on emotion.

I've been looking at this recently, I think it was bob proctor who said there is a minuscule window wherein you decide to be a reactor or a responder to a situation presented to you, but you can train yourself, or be trained either way.

HalloweenJack

Depends on the situation.

If it's something I care about, I'll react. If it's something I don't care about, I'll respond.

La Fenetre

What's the difference between reacting and responding ?

punisher5112

A little from column A and a kittle from column B

TheLastMohican

Robsweezie wrote: »

in everyday situations, are you the type to react or respond? if someone did something really bad on you, would you leave them an abusive voicemail/text or just accept they're no good and move on?

someone's trying to start a row with you, do you rise to it and lose the run of yourself or refuse to even entertain the whole thing?

when im pissed off ive been known to slam doors the odd time, storm out instead of staying and talking things through properly. im the type who wont start shouting, i'll just walk out. so im not the perfect ''response' type. its too easy to just snap and act on emotion.

It depends on whether it's me or my alter-ego.

colossus-x

La Fenetre wrote: »

What's the difference between reacting and responding ?

Erm reacting is more knee jerk thoughtless reply where responding is more considered.

So for example your question was reacting and my reply to you was responding

sonny.knowles

I prefer to reply rather than react or respond.

La Fenetre

colossus-x wrote: »

Erm reacting is more knee jerk thoughtless reply where responding is more considered.

So for example your question was reacting and my reply to you was responding

My question . . . is just a question . . I think you've over-reacted.

miss tickle

punisher5112 wrote: »

A little from column A and a kittle from column B

You miss-quoted there, it's a little from column A and a kitten from column B, because when you are making an argument, you always need a cute kitten to distract your opposers and hammer home your argument.

Ruu

I am trying to be better about but in the 'fight or flight' response, it is instinct to go into survival mode and attack. Had a customer who loves to argue about every little thing and was dismissive about the solutions and my explanation of the matter, start to hear my voice shake. Very hard to deal with people who just want to argue, working on it.:o