I cry too much

LegacyUser

I'm not sure this is entirely the right place for this but I need help with a problem. I cry all the time! It seems to b mainly brought on by stress but it's really irritating and it is affecting my work.
I'm currently doing some one the job training. The work itself isn't the issue it's the feedback and self-assesment etc. So today I had a feedback session, it went fine. There were certainly things to work on but nothing major, i was relatively happy. But I spent the entire session fighting back tears! I had so many things I wanted to say and questions to ask on how I could improve but I couldn't because I had that lump in my throat and I knew if I spoke i would cry. I'm not embarrassed about crying when I'm genuinely upset (I've cried in work on several occasions, I' an emotional person) but when I'm not it is just frustrating. And I know if I had cried my boss would have either stopped being so honest, assuming he'd upset me, or/and believe me to be weak or not "up to it", neither of which are the case.

Similarly when asked to give verbal self-assessment, I find it very difficult to do it without crying unless everything has gone very well, but that's almost never because there is always something that can be improved upon and certainly nothing to cry over. I ave cried openly several times in this situation and it leads others to think I'm overly self critical. But in order to not cry I have to stick to generic "Yeah, it was alright, I think" commentary. I also cry when I'm really embarrassed, which doesn't relate to work but is still a pain. Does anyone experience something similar?

ja1986

This happened me in my last place of work and another colleague of mine. I have no idea why I got so emotional,it could have started over a simple performance review and a positive one at that. But I think it was the face to face dealings with a boss that I found intimidating.my two male bosses were so nice and sensitive to me , they proberly thought I was just a hormonal woman ect and didn't know how to deal with it. I just get nervous in situations with people higher than me which is weird and I don't know where this stems from. Even now out of work,I could cry at really stupid situations where it's not necessary but keep my calm when its expected to cry. I know I haven't given you advice but just wanted to let you know your not alone. There's two of us in this ! I suppose deep breathing is what I found worked to get rid of the lump in the throat. I'd love to hear from someone else though x good luck x

Roselm

Have you always been like this?
Are you on the pill?.One pill I was on had me bursting out crying over ridiculously trivial things but I was back to myself when I changed to a different one.

fuzzypickle

I used to have that problem years ago. I think it was hormonal. Any strong emotion triggered it. It was such a pain.

It stopped after I started using the pill. I'm not on it at the moment but it hasn't returned.

CaraMay

Op have you considered talking to your gp about this. I personally think it's very unprofessional to cry at work and as it's happened to you more than once, it's something you need to look more closely at. It's clearly already affecting your work performance if you can't even ask questions during a feedback session. This will have been noted. Time to speak to a professional.

LegacyUser

Hi OP

Just so you know you're not alone. I was the same when I was in my early 20s and my friend is the same aswell. It wore off me though and now I find that it takes a lot for me to cry. I have changed pill since so maybe that had something to do with it. I was a very emotional person back then and I used to hate confrontation or anything that involved me meeting with my boss etc.

I found deep breaths used to help aswell. The feeling of panic you get when you're trying to stop yourself from crying can sometimes makes it worse. Relaxation is key. And deep breaths really to help relax you!