would i be a failure if i did this?

afterglow

Hi all

going to be concise and to the point here.
Now in the uk. Working for a big company.
I want to come home even though i haven't been here a long time, I'm so homesick and lonely. I am just wondering would i be considered a failure if I did this, and would coming home now at such an early stage hinder my ability to get a job in ireland?
I've been through all my training and now doing the role properly be it with support, everyone in my team is the same at the moment so not just me.
I feel so low lonely and homesick at the moment i just don't know what to do.
Any help appreciated
TIA

mattP

You wouldn't be considered a failure at all
I have a lot of family that left when the **** hit the fan, and so far they've all either come back or expressed hopes to. Most people left just to get by until they could sustainably live here again.
Either way, it doesn't really matter what other people think. What you think and what you feel matters - and it sounds like youd be a lot happier back home!

bonyn

You wouldnt be a failure, but make sure you give the UK a good go. It could be very good career-wise and to help you get out of your comfort zone.
Join clubs, have a life outside work.. and don't forget how close to Ireland you are - nothing stopping you coming home once a month especially if you live close to the airport.

JillyQ

Op you wouldn't be considered a failure at all. Do what feels right for you. If that is to come then do it.

You surely wouldn't be a failure. Moving and living abroad can be fun and exciting but it also takes it toll. Especially the early weeks/months might be somewhat difficult. I have myself moved to Ireland from another country and personally found it a great adventure, but a lot of people I know didn't find it this way and went back to their home countries. Nothing wrong with that.

There's no point in struggling and going against yourself, it's just not worth it. Make sure however you give it a good go, as somebody above said - meet some local people, join a club or a social group, try doing stuff you would do back home in your spare time. If it still doesn't work out for you, don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure, life's too short for that

whiskeyman

Any chance you could line up a job to come back to?
It's always easier getting a job when you're currently in one.
Check with agencies and LinkedIn for jobs in your area.
Best of luck!

Rubberchikken

it's not a failure to admit that you're homesick and want to come back. homesickness is actually terrible and can be difficult to choke down.
you have to do what's right for you, so weigh up your options, then decide. good luck

doulikeit

Not at all, but if you do decide to come home you need to be sure its a decision you can live with, all to often I see lads my bro included coming home from overseas and delighted to be home. Then maybe a few weeks later when all the welcome home sessions, pats on the back and friends and neighbours wanting to chat to you subside, reality bites and the pleasant wee green fairy tale they had built up in their heads is overtaken with struggles to find work, dreary weather, sh1t money, alot of them find it hard to readjust again and some do return. So just also keep that in mind. I was away too homesickness is a bitch, and it will lie to you and give you the Quietman version which isnt always accurate, my advice 25% heart / 75% head, good luck to you.

Afroshack

doulikeit wrote: »

Not at all, but if you do decide to come home you need to be sure its a decision you can live with, all to often I see lads my bro included coming home from overseas and delighted to be home. Then maybe a few weeks later when all the welcome home sessions, pats on the back and friends and neighbours wanting to chat to you subside, reality bites and the pleasant wee green fairy tale they had built up in their heads is overtaken with struggles to find work, dreary weather, sh1t money alot of them find it hard to readjust, again and some do return. So just also keep that in mind. I was away too homesickness is a bitch, and it will lie to you and give you the Quietman version which isnt always accurate, my advice 25% heart / 75% head, good luck to you.

I totally agree with this post. I've been away three years and I was massively homesick so I went back quite quickly and I realised I was romanticising a lot of things about Ireland. Once i had caught up with friends and family properly, the reality hit me. Back to the dole queue, back to living at home, back to having no career prospects, holidays, clothes or the possibility any tangible future or independance. In London where I live, I have all those things now I'm properly settled and my quality of life is so much better. Think about what exactly it is you miss, and explore the job/home situation first.

magicmushroom

OP it sounds like it's the job that's getting you down and this is then leading you to feel homesick.

However, maybe you should look at changing jobs first and seeing if that helps? Easier said than done, I know - but easier than coming home and finding a job here I would imagine.

I know it's tough to be away from home, I'm living in Ireland for 7 years now and originally from Hertfordshire, UK.
I'm settled now but it took me a while to feel this way and I still have little wobbles where I want to go back - up until a couple of weeks ago I as all set to go back but changed my mind at the last minute!