At a crossroads... Help needed!

gstack166

Ok. Where to start!

I'm a 30 year old male who's just recently became a first time father, everything in that regard is going well, I'm good with the child, love her & my partner, but, in every other regard I'm seriously worried about the future!

I'm kind of in a dead end job, hours getting cut, redundancies a few months ago with some supposed to be coming soon again (I'm hoping to get mine) mainly because of the long commute I have now to/from work as my partner wouldn't relocate outside her hometown, and the poor wages along with the cut hours doesn't help.

We've recently moved into a new place also & truth be told I'm seriously struggling with it all financially & it seems it's going to get a lot worse in that area before it starts getting better! I've no qualifications & at 30 with a newborn I feel time could run out on me to get some if I don't act fast. I left an apprenticeship to go travelling at 19 and regret it since. I honestly don't know what I want to do with my life in the long run & even in the short to medium run there's little work around the area I'm in now.

Has anyone been in a situation similar or knows of anyone with the same worries as mine? Advice would be greatly appreciated!

Please feel free to move if in the wrong section MOD.

Thanks.

Talk to your GP and maybe get a referral to a good psychologist who can deal with negative thoughts and help you cope.

punisher5112

Op move to personal issues affter hours not suited.

Good luck.

Peregrine

Moved from AH to Personal Issues. Read the local charter before posting.

strandroad

Is your partner qualified? Would it work for you if you became a stay at home parent and combined it with upskilling?

CaraMay

Op is your oh working or planning to work? Surely the financial responsibility should be 50/50?

What would you like to do?

gstack166

CaraMay wrote: »

Op is your oh working or planning to work? Surely the financial responsibility should be 50/50?

What would you like to do?

She'll be returning to work in March/April after maternity leave. It is split 50/50 but with the 400 euro a month on petrol for just the commute to work plus 400 euro a month to the credit union repaying a loan, before rent, food, household bills, it's a constant struggle. I literally have no idea what I want to do or even where to start to try find out what I'd like to do.

CaraMay

Op don't panic. Is there anything you are good at? What course do they run in your local college? Maybe start by picking one and take it from there. I took a punt on the sna course and am now doing a related course. This is nothing like my work experience. Don't panic and line up a course for January. You may or may not like it but it will get you back into the studying mind frame. Congrats on the new baba

CaraMay

Can you restructure the loan? Make the term longer and pay less for the moment?

Merkin

gstack166 wrote: »

She'll be returning to work in March/April after maternity leave. It is split 50/50 but with the 400 euro a month on petrol for just the commute to work plus 400 euro a month to the credit union repaying a loan, before rent, food, household bills, it's a constant struggle. I literally have no idea what I want to do or even where to start to try find out what I'd like to do.

Would you maybe go to MABS and discuss your financial predicament with them OP?

pgj2015

gstack166 wrote: »

She'll be returning to work in March/April after maternity leave. It is split 50/50 but with the 400 euro a month on petrol for just the commute to work plus 400 euro a month to the credit union repaying a loan, before rent, food, household bills, it's a constant struggle. I literally have no idea what I want to do or even where to start to try find out what I'd like to do.

Hi op, as far as I am aware there is free career guidance available in quiet a few towns around the country, maybe drop in to your local citizens advice and they might point you in the right direction to your local career guidance office. I have used them in the past and found them very helpful.

Going back to education is a good option I think, even with all the doom and gloom you hear about lack of jobs in Ireland, I would have to disagree, everyone I went to college with who got their degree all have jobs in Ireland now, and these are people who finished college between 2011 -2015, most have business degrees.

ruaille buaille

Go to MABS or Citizen Advice Bureau for some advice on getting help.