Big butch girl 1 - Me 0

Do Me Good · 07-10-2015 6:52pm #1

Analysis of a silly interaction that occurred in college today. Me and this big butch girl were both walking towards a door coming from different angles. Her tutor (who was leading the way for her) passed through the door and continued on. She actually arrived at the door before me, so I gestured for her to go first. She then stopped, and gestured for me to go first. I paused and then sort of reluctantly walked through. How rude of
her!

And I suppose it's only polite to thank someone who lets you go first, right? So as I passed through, I thanked the b1tch! for inconveniencing me. Funny! And for a just second I felt like a bit of a b1tch. You'd think she'd have wanted to catch up with her demonstrator! Generally speaking I hate when people do this, but it never quite happened like this. Within the space of a second, this can really confuse people, and just interrupt the overall continuity of things. Having to realise to yourself "oh okay, you want me to go first", and then to think "yeah fine, whatever, if it means that much too you".

It's even more ridiculous when you actually think about it. I mean if I did this (what she did) to someone else, I'd expect to get laughed at. You'd think that if we're all adults, then someone surely wouldn't be silly enough to think they're better than you if they let you go first through a doorway first. Someone could be the most useless waste of space on the planet, but they could be good at playing this silly game of letting someone go through a door first.

Generally speaking, I think it's polite for the party who happens to receive the gesture first, to just go through, rather than worrying about their ego. I thought this was an issue in India. And for the record I'm a big enough guy too, but she'd probably beat me in of terms of weight!

Stheno · 07-10-2015 6:54pm

Huh?

kneemos · 07-10-2015 6:55pm

You've thought about this way too much.

Medusa22 · 07-10-2015 6:57pm

Maybe the girl just wanted to be polite and gestured for you to go through the door first? I've done the same myself even when someone has gestured to me first, and it certainly wasn't any kind of 'power play' or to boost my own ego, I just wanted to offer the same.