Its the little things...

mattP

What little things annoy(ed) you about being in the closet?
Just today I met a guy at work who goes to the other school in the area. We know of each other so we talked for a while. After work I met one of my friends and she asked the usual question - "Did you meet anyone during your shift?"
For the life of me I couldn't think of his name! All I wanted to say was "That hot lad in X school on the hurling team" but all that came out was "Erm you know your man on their hurling team, hes friends with X, he went to that party..."

Ten of Swords

Not being honest with my friends. To me that was a huge deal and caused me a lot of unnecessary stress.

At the time I couldn't have cared less about what my parents or siblings thought of me if they ever found out but the thought of my closest friends rejecting me was more than I could have handled at the time and it made me feel very isolated and alone.

baby and crumble

It still annoys me to this day that I didn't get the chance to have my teenaged crushes outside my own head. You know, when your friends all get together and talk about who they fancy. I was always just stuck there like a lump trying to think of a name from the rugby team when all I could think about was that hot hockey player in 5th year...

It annoyed me that I had to lie to my parents, and that I did it for so long when there was literally no need. They were completely fine about it.

And it annoys me that I didn't get much of a chance to go off and try and kiss loads of girls when I was younger. Don't get me wrong, I love my GF who I've been with for years, but she's the only woman I ever even kissed. I was too afraid to put myself out there when I was a teenager, too scared of what might happen. I never really understood why my parents told us to go out with loads of people, and see who fits, rather than stay with the first person you really like. I kind of understand it now.

playedalive

baby and crumble wrote: »

It still annoys me to this day that I didn't get the chance to have my teenaged crushes outside my own head. You know, when your friends all get together and talk about who they fancy. I was always just stuck there like a lump trying to think of a name from the rugby team when all I could think about was that hot hockey player in 5th year...

It annoyed me that I had to lie to my parents, and that I did it for so long when there was literally no need. They were completely fine about it.

And it annoys me that I didn't get much of a chance to go off and try and kiss loads of girls when I was younger. Don't get me wrong, I love my GF who I've been with for years, but she's the only woman I ever even kissed. I was too afraid to put myself out there when I was a teenager, too scared of what might happen. I never really understood why my parents told us to go out with loads of people, and see who fits, rather than stay with the first person you really like. I kind of understand it now.

I think a lot of LGBT folk would feel like that. I wish I became more comfortable in my sexuality earlier than 21 and was a bit more out there than I was. But I guess I had other issues in my life and was not ready. In the past 4 years of being an openly gay man, it has been an interesting journey and I have 'embraced' it in my own way . But I wish I could date a bit more and try out a relationship. But I'm 24 and I still have plenty of time for that, I guess