Starting to think a work friend may not be

LegacyUser

I was on a work night out tonight and I feel like I was put down twice tonight in front of other collegues, on the first ocassion I asked him in front of a few people if he knew if our supervisor was coming out tonight, he stared at me blankly and after a few seconds he said how the F am I supposed to know, later on that night I was out in the smoking area and theer was a puppy, I love dogs and one of the girls in work those too. I took a photo and when I got back to the bar I showed her and she loved it, she then showed this lad the photo and he was very unreactive and dismissive of it like as if what are you showing me this for whilst looking at me, he has always been a fairly Alpha type male type in work and gets what he wants but Im starting to think hes only friends with me on his terms, in my opinion this type of thing is un called for, opinions please

miamee

This guy sounds like an ignorant git, I'd keep my relationship with him strictly work-related and leave him to it outside of that.

m'lady

This guy is not a friend, he's a colleague and not a very nice one from what you've described. Personally I'd avoid being in his company in a social setting, as in don't sit beside him and don't make conversation with him.
In work, be professional but not chatty!

It's always important to realize that work "friends" aren't necessarily actually friends. Guy just seems kind of ignorant.

Call me Al

Yes he is definitely trying to be an alpha male. Opinionated and arrogant, and has no problems with speaking down to people when he feels like it of he thinks he will get away with it.
If i were you i'd avoid him tbh. I wouldn't go out of my way to be in his company, and i would reply to him if he were to say anything like that again to me by saying he doesn't need to be rude if he doesn't like it. And he doesn't.

tomwaterford

Never be friends with people you work with....not saying don't get along....but don't mix work and social life...

and don't ever be friends with someone who puts you down....life's forever too short

freshpopcorn

I know lots of people and they work with their best friends and even go on to marry them.
In this case tough this guy is not your friend. He might have the opinion that your childish ask questions about is such a person is going to be there and showing him pictures of a dog. I know both men and women like this.
Ye are not suited to one another.