To early to go to court on access

irish gent

Hi All, My son is only seeing his new born for two hours a week. Hes not happy with this the child is 10 days old now.He wants to be around with is son more but ex is stopping him .Should he go down the court or is it to early for this Any advise would be great .

Ken.

Get into court ASAP. Lets say this carries on for a year. The judge could just say "you've been ok with 2 hours till now so We'll leave it as it is". Probably wouldn't happen but you'd never know.

Gatling

10 days old and throwing the stress of court action against the new mum a bit ott been honest ,
Give them a chance to sort it themself's

irish gent

Its not just his ex Girlfriend hes up against its her Mother as well. My son wants to be part of the new born Baby's life, but two hours week is not on .

YesPlease

Two hours a week is disgraceful regardless of whether or not the child is only 10 days old, this isn't about the mother it's about the child and letting the baby have the chance to bond with both parents.

I'd tell him to get to court as soon as possible because it can be a lengthy process. Get a solicitor who has experience with this kind of thing. From the experience of a friend the first ruling the judge only gave him a few hours on a set day each week & then arranged another court date for 6 months down the line with a view to increasing the amount of time as the child got older provided all access visits were kept etc. Plus if it is court ordered she can't just cancel it.

Make sure as well any maintenance he is paying is going to her bank account, no cash ever as he'll have no proof he gave it to her, same with anything she asks him to buy tell him to keep receipts. Also if he doesn't live at the same address as you, as a grandparent you can apply for grandparents access which if that's the case i'd also start that process immediately. Best of luck, I hope it all works out for you.

manonboard

irish gent wrote: »

Its not just his ex Girlfriend hes up against its her Mother as well. My son wants to be part of the new born Baby's life, but two hours week is not on .

I entirely sympathise with your sons situation, these scenarios are terrible for all involved.

I wanted to say something to you after reading the post i quoted. I've seen it happen a few times and its really messy to believe that the other mothers mother is the issue.
Even if the grandma is a total bitch from hell, its the mother of the child and your sons ex that should only ever be held responsible and discussed things with.
Feeding other characters in the drama just increases the cast number. If the grandma is bitching and making up weird ****, it's up to her daughter to filter and consider the responses.

I just wanted to say it to you because often (and reasonably perceived) the issue becomes so much bigger simply because the characters in the conflicts want to be important and it's given to them by interacting on their level.

Sala

At 10 days old I don't think it would be possible. A judge won't order a child that young to be taken away from the mother and handed to the father. I presume this is some sort of supervised access?

It's much much better if they can sort it themselves. There is a free mediation service in dolphin house if you are in Dublin where someone can help them agree it, without the granny interfering.

Your son should be also pay maintenance and keep a record of it.