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Rebooting a short lived relationship

  • 19-09-2015 9:11pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi All,

    Any words of wisdom here would be appreciated, recently out of a long term relationship, it came to its natural end but the it ended rather badly for both of us so quite a few scars taken on board.

    Anyway naturally after that you're like let's be single for a while and recover, however a couple of weeks later I met an amazing girl, anyway we were together for a while and it was fantastic, however I noticed some of the knockon effects of the previous relationship were hindering this one and she noticed it too which meant the great early part of a relationship wasn't as good as it should be .

    So she called it a day, she said she's really into me but I'm not ready for another relationship yet. But in time who knows?

    This girl definitely isn't a rebound I just wish I met her a couple of months later when I could be the best version of me. I suppose I'm just wondering what the next step I should take...I don't want to lose this girl...but should I just give her space for a few weeks and then try my luck again?


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  • #2
    Penny Tration
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    I don't think you should try again in a few weeks.

    You said yourself that there were knock on effects from your last relationship hindering the new relationship.

    I don't think a few weeks is enough to move on completely from a long term relationship, and you risk having the same issues crop up again if you go back to the new lady in a few weeks.

    I think the fairest thing you could do is leave the lady alone and just work on getting over your past relationship before you consider dating anyone.


  • #3
    Tell me how
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,877 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    Penny Tration wrote:
    I think the fairest thing you could do is leave the lady alone and just work on getting over your past relationship before you consider dating anyone.


    Harsh. But true.


  • #4
    zeffabelli
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,516 ✭✭✭zeffabelli


    Cleanse the palette.


  • #5
    El_Duderino 09
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,898 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    Knock on effects from a recent relationship is pretty much the meaning of being on the rebound. Wait a few months and see how you feel then.

    Post relationship is a strange phase which is effectively like a bereavement. It's not a good time to start a new serious relationship. Wait a few months and see how it goes


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