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Friendship with 2 different personality types

  • 19-09-2015 10:53am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Just would like some advice on a "friendship", because I am not sure at the moment if youd call it that.

    Its fairly newly established-bout 6 months. And I do like them, as a person, but from my point of view are becoming increasingly difficult to deal with. Having a friendship with a personality-type like this person is new to me.

    I am of the quietly confident variety, loyal, and very trust worthy. It takes me time to build up friendships. I would definitely care about my friends. I know who they are. No bullsh*t.

    This person has a lot of good qualities. Funny and exciting. But the world revolves around themselves. Ive never seen the like. I found it interesting at the start. But now its grinding me down.

    Id given them a little gentle chat about 2 weeks ago saying look for the friendship to thrive etc (which is what I would like), I need to be included in conversation (when I say something about myself, its discounted).

    Yesterday, after another day of them talking about themselves, I sort of blew up at them. They asked me after a full days conversation about themselves "how are you-Im not really interested but Ill ask anyways".

    Is there any way to deal with a person like this? Am beginning to realise my needs arent being met in this "friendship" but the person will probably never change either.

    So, does 2 different personality types = no friendship?


Comments

  • #2
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,662 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    The person sounds like a narcissistic a-hole, and the best way to deal with them is to just end the friendship. You're not getting anything out of it, so why continue? Friendships are supposed to enhance your life, not make it worse.


  • #3
    Sinall
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 813 ✭✭✭Sinall


    I agree with Faith. It's not the fact that your personality types are different. The problem seems to be that the other person isn't a very good friend and sounds really selfish! I don't think any amount of chats is going to change that.


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