Disabled and dating / relationships

LegacyUser

Hi,

I am looking to see if I can get some feedback regarding honest options about dating a man with a noticable physical disability.

I am a 31 year old man with cerable paulsy. I need crutches to get around and it affects a lot of aspects of day to day life. I have a job and friends exc.. However when it comes to dating & relationships the disability is a huge factor.

Now I am no brad pitt, however I am not the worst looking guy in the world. Despite efforts in speed dating / online dating I never get any feedback other than "lets be friends". Don't get me wrong I appreciate there may be no connection physically or intelectually for a lot of women. Also I appreciate some understandable levels of insecurity play a part on my side.

The thing is it never gets past a few dates and I know any girl will need to accept my limitatons which is a lot to ask for when it would affect their lives and dreams.

Is ther anyone out there who has been able to find that special someone in similar circumstances?

Thanks,

Roselm

Hi,
I'm just thinking:
Looks aren't everything. (You said you're ok looking). Lot's of people can be good looking but they are not fun to talk to, maybe because they are shy or awkward socially, and so they don't get dates/hook ups.
I have a friend like this. She's convinced she's unattractive. She's actually really pretty and quite striking but her body language is closed and she looks unapproachable and uncomfortable socially. This is what is stopping her, not her looks.
Is it possible you're giving out a vibe you're unaware of? Is it definitely your CP that's the issue?
Sorry if I'm way off but I think people often blame looks when I think personality and social skills has a lot more bearing on things!

LegacyUser

Op, sorry to say but it's all self confidence, I like you have minor disability, and now have wife, 2 kids, and job, mortgage, house, etc..... there is nothing stoping you once you have the self confidence you need.