To come home - difficult situation

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Long story short I am living in the UK, working on a grad programme. The programme is nothing that I want to do really, I took it as it was the only thing open to me when I moved over here to look for work one year ago. The total programme length is 3 years long however after one year, words cannot describe how much I want to come home. I am not happy over here.

Some jobs in Ireland are opening up and I feel with a solid year of good work under my belt, that I could secure a job in Dublin. The problem is that career-wise I would probably do better if I stay in the UK. As I stated, I am extremely unhappy over here and I yearn to go back to Dublin. I have started drinking quite a bit over here and I don't really have a support system here.

I am trying to balance career vs happiness and well-being.

How do you balance career vs happiness? I am really thinking of just moving home to Dublin and dealing with things once I arrive home but I don't know.

So I am asking for your opinions - what would you do?

Thanks all.

tomwaterford

Come home....there's no job/money/anything worth being unhappy over life's forever too short


Have you tried e-mailing places/applying for jobs in Dublin...or maybe take a weeks holidays and come back with cvs??

freshpopcorn

I know somebody who had a good job in Ireland and was offered an excellent job with brilliant pay in a different part of the country. They gave it there best shot/tried to make friends. They hated it tough. They stayed at it for about 14 months and went back by on the original city when they got a job offer and was on a lot less money. But it made them happy.
I'd recommend having a job lined up before you come home tough.

Typer Monkey

What's the point of having a career if it makes you so unhappy? It's only a job at the end of the day and your happiness is way more important. Focussing on your career would only make sense if it was a job/career you really wanted and it made you happy now or would in the future. You don't like your job, don't like where you're living, you're unhappy and have recognised negative patterns that are developing because of it (the drinking)...staying put makes no sense whatsoever

You can either work to live or live to work. Only you can decide. If you're seriously thinking of coming back, then do. You tried something and found it's not for you. Move on. Good Luck.

VandC

Firstly, sorry to hear you're having such a difficult time and well done for being proactive and trying to solve it out before it's too late.

No amount of money can replace happiness. As others said, choose happiness. What's the point in being miserable with money over there when you are happy elsewhere. You've gotten experience which will stand to you when looking for a new job.

All I will say is try not to have rose tinted glasses on for the past. Things will likely be different, if even only slightly. Maybe Friends will have changed a bit, or maybe your favourite past time activity is no longer there. But if there are any, you have considered them, and once you will still be happy then go for it. I say this assuming you are moving back to same place. I personally didn't do this when I moved back and if I had of I think I may have made different choices.

Whatever you decide OP, good luck and I hope you find happiness again soon.

shabaz

Hi

I have just recently moved back home with my partner from the UK. We both have found jobs. I bumbled along from one job to the next for a few months but thankfully have now found a job that I love and am very happy. We are living with my brother at the moment which isn't ideal but is helping us with getting sorted and being able to save a bit. I would say move home, I hated where we were living in the UK, I knew I wasn't going to get to like where we were living and so had to make the decision either I go home on my own or my partner comes with me. Thankfully he agreed to move home too, and we are both extremely happy to be home now. Things are really looking up here. I got loads of job offers so I don't think you need to worry about not getting a job. I didn't have a job to come home to but as I said I got lots of offers when I started looking. Best of luck. Happiness is so much more important.

Rubberchikken

being miserable and hating where you are is a receipe for disaster and no amount of alcohol will fix it.

look at the available jobs here, apply for them. and see how things go. what is there to lose?
best of luck

LegacyUser

I would advise you to send you send your cv to recruitment agencies here. Take some holidays and come home to see agencies. I would also look up job sites.

I would contact your freinds and family and tell them your looking for work here also.
Some times they could hear of a job that would suit you. Get your details up on linkedin also.
I know someone who got her it job through Linkedin.

I know your unhappy at the moment but I would also say that the drink is a depresive. If you drinking more than usual it won't be helping your mood.
In regards to getting a job here I would keep looking from the Uk. If there are any courses ect you could do that would increase your employment prospects do them.
If you have not got a job by x date you could leave your job in the Uk. I would say that there a jobs around in Sep/Oct most companies don't take on new employees at the end of the year. If you wait after this till Feb/March there should be some movement again.

TimeToShine

Just come home. It baffles me how graduates can stick with jobs they hate when they have so many options. You have 40 years to climb the corporate ladder, you don't want to start that off in a ball of misery. If you found a graduate program in the UK I can guarantee you there are plenty in Dublin in the same field. Move back in with your parents and take your time planning your next move.

Wompa1

I agree with others. Come home.

Xterminator

the best way to come back, would be to land a job 1st!

use the recruiting agencys; interview over skype and try to land a job before quitting your current position!

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The_Conductor

Definitely explore the jobs market here first- things are not as rosy as you seem to think they are........ Most of the recent jobs here are entry level, minimum wage type posts- well paid graduate jobs are very much the holy graille.