Ring dilemma..

Keane2baMused

So this is a weird one.


My fiancé proposed last month. Unexpected proposal but we had discussed marriage a lot) etc (we have kids)

He had a beautiful token ring picked out and told me he wants us to choose the ring together (great that's what I wanted also).

Only thing is now people have started saying they think I should keep the token ring. That it is beautiful. He picked it especially for me..yadda yadda.

I'm genuinely in limbo here and feel like I can't get my real engagement ring now as ill be judged by them!

tinkerbell

Honestly, it's none of their damn business. Just don't even discuss it with people. Go out and go shopping for your real engagement ring and don't mind the busy bodies.

Congrats!!

Toots

tinkerbell wrote: »

Honestly, it's none of their damn business. Just don't even discuss it with people. Go out and go shopping for your real engagement ring and don't mind the busy bodies.

Congrats!!

+1, the actual ring will be picked especially for you also, and you'll have lovely memories of the experience of picking it out with your fiance! Besides it's not like you're going to be chucking the token ring in the bin when you get the official ring! Congratulations!!

Faith

You can always put the token ring on your right hand.

pooch90

I keep my token ring on my keys.

Keane2baMused

Thanks everyone! they were my thoughts also. I do love my token ring and will still wear it. Logically speaking though it's not realistic to have it as my 'forever' as if for no other reason than it wouldn't be hard wearing enough!

I'm by no means materialistic and its not about cost with me, if my fiancé wanted this to be my forever ring id have gladly and happily accepted. But he said loads of times when he proposed that he hopes I'm ok with the token ring, just that he wants to us to pick out my engagement ring together.

These particular people have even said we shouldn't have told anyone it's a token ring, that if we hadn't nobody would know.

MistyCheese

Christ, what killjoys! Your ring/s are no-one else's business. It's rude of anyone else to tell you what to do with your ring. As long as yourself and himself are happy. I personally think getting a 'token' ring is the best idea. He gets to surprise you and present you with a ring but you get a say in your 'forever' ring. After all, it's you who will be wearing it.

Keane2baMused wrote: »

that he wants to us to pick out my engagement ring together.

So if he doesn't have a problem with you picking out your ring then really it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I have fond memories of my husband and I picking out rings, it's a lovely experience for the two of you to share.

Keane2baMused wrote: »

These particular people have even said we shouldn't have told anyone it's a token ring, that if we hadn't nobody would know.

With hindsight you can see that you shouldn't have told them! Congratulations on the engagement.

Keane2baMused

MistyCheese wrote: »

Christ, what killjoys! Your ring/s are no-one else's business. It's rude of anyone else to tell you what to do with your ring. As long as yourself and himself are happy. I personally think getting a 'token' ring is the best idea. He gets to surprise you and present you with a ring but you get a say in your 'forever' ring. After all, it's you who will be wearing it.



So if he doesn't have a problem with you picking out your ring then really it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I have fond memories of my husband and I picking out rings, it's a lovely experience for the two of you to share.



With hindsight you can see that you shouldn't have told them! Congratulations on the engagement.

True, I think the only reason we told them was in case I ended up with a different style family would know the difference!

I know right, big flipping parade rainers!

Alicat

I'm keeping my token ring on a necklace, but I'm definitely looking forward to shopping for the 'real' one!

We're not engaged even a month yet but the 'opinions' on everything have already started. Ignore them all, and enjoy doing what you want to do.

IrishAlice

Alicat wrote: »

We're not engaged even a month yet but the 'opinions' on everything have already started. Ignore them all, and enjoy doing what you want to do.

This!! My OH & I got engaged in April - we've had opinions on the ring, the potential venue, the fact that we haven't booked a venue yet, the date we're thinking of.

Just ignore everyone and their opinions, the only people that count are you, your fiance and your children.

I hope you have a wonderful time shopping for your forever ring, it's such a lovely time

Milly33

Go with what you want as all have said.. When it comes to weddings everyone has their own opinions of what they think is right or wrong or not even that just what they want.. Go for whatever ye decide ye want to do yerselfs

ChewChew

We got engaged last December when I was 3 months pregnant so it was gear telling people that we'll get the baby out first and then down the line think about the wedding. So a few weeks ago we booked the date and venue and just told people the when and where so no one had the chance to offer any input!!

With regards the ring, my oh designed my ring and had it made, no token ring but I am 100% in love with it. If I got a token I think I'd find it hard to go to something else unless I really disliked it and then would maybe wear it on a chain. But do what you want not what others suggest you should do. It's you and your partners money that'll be buying it and your finger it'll be put on.