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Partner shows no interest

  • 07-09-2015 4:32am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    For a while my partner of 4 years has shown little interest in doing anything with me other than sex. He does his thing, I do mine even though we live together. I was miserable enough at that but could mostly cope thinking it would get better. However now he barely touches me. Conversations are limited. Touching him at all makes him look like he's in physical pain. I don't know how much longer I want to exist like this. It doesn't matter what I say it never changes. I've tried so so many times to improve us. I'm so so alone and I hate it.


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  • #2
    kylith
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,737 ✭✭✭✭kylith


    Assuming you have spoken to your partner about this and they have no interest in counselling or trying to work this out then it sounds like it's time to leave. The relationship is over, you're miserable, and it seems like your partner is miserable too. Someone has to pull the plug, I'm afraid. It's hard to do but you'll feel better afterward.


  • #3
    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    Yeah it looks like your partner's only with you now out of convenience. I assume you're living together? He doesn't sound like he even likes you these days, let alone loves you. I would say he's only hanging around for the sex and the convenience of home comforts. The fact that he acts like he's in physical pain if you touch him suggests he finds you somewhat repulsive. Obviously not repulsive enough for sex but that's another story.

    You should be asking yourself why are you still sticking around. You've tried to change things but it's not working. If he wanted to save the relationship he'd have done so long ago. He doesn't so it's time to split. Why are you settling for this awful loveless existence?


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